Wondering how the ladies who have gone through miscarriages are feeling about ttc again? I didn't have a care in the world during my first two pregnancies and so it came as a bit of a shock to lose my third bub. But after losing number 3 there was NO WAY I thought I'd lose number 4 too - I thought I'd had my bad luck. But now I am almost expecting to lose the next one if I fall pregnant. How do you get your head around it all??? I'm feeling positive one moment and very negative the next.

Wondering how the ladies who have gone through miscarriages are feeling about ttc again? I didn't have a care in the world during my first two pregnancies and so it came as a bit of a shock to lose my third bub. But after losing number 3 there was NO WAY I thought I'd lose number 4 too - I thought I'd had my bad luck. But now I am almost expecting to lose the next one if I fall pregnant. How do you get your head around it all??? I'm feeling positive one moment and very negative the next.

Yes I have two Darlings in. Heaven
My 1st Miscarrage was in 2000.
Took me 10yrs to get courage to try again. Had health y baby boy. In November I lost another baby at 11wks.
I never met my babies that went to heaven but will always remember them.



Scared. It's going to happen again but I'm 37yrs young. I want more babies don't want to live in regret say five yrs time still wanting more babies.



It hurts so much loading babies but I will always remember and love them.



Willing. / wanting more
Truly leaving. It in God's. Hands

Wondering how the ladies who have gone through miscarriages are feeling about ttc again? I didn't have a care in the world during my first two pregnancies and so it came as a bit of a shock to lose my third bub. But after losing number 3 there was NO WAY I thought I'd lose number 4 too - I thought I'd had my bad luck. But now I am almost expecting to lose the next one if I fall pregnant. How do you get your head around it all??? I'm feeling positive one moment and very negative the next.

Hi there i am so sorry for your losses, i too am in the same position as you after having 2 of the healthiest pregnancies and bubs i lost my third, fourth and just recently my fifth!
i have had tests done and have since found out since having my second child i have developed Hashimotos disease (a thyroid problem) which can cause miscarriage. i am now on thyroid tablets and have my follow up appointment in mid January.
I know exactly how you feel honey its such a hard thing to go through once let alone 2 or three times!!!
i hope you find the courage to try again, we just cant shake that 3rd baby feeling and will try again once my thyroid levels are back to normal.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do sweetheart. xxoo

Hi there i am so sorry for your losses, i too am in the same position as you after having 2 of the healthiest pregnancies and bubs i lost my third, fourth and just recently my fifth!
i have had tests done and have since found out since having my second child i have developed Hashimotos disease (a thyroid problem) which can cause miscarriage. i am now on thyroid tablets and have my follow up appointment in mid January.
I know exactly how you feel honey its such a hard thing to go through once let alone 2 or three times!!!
i hope you find the courage to try again, we just cant shake that 3rd baby feeling and will try again once my thyroid levels are back to normal.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do sweetheart. xxoo

That made my heart just drop when I read how many bubs you've lost. That's my greatest fear, though I am willing to give it a good go. I'm very sorry you're going through that. It is so exhausting going through the conceiving, the carrying, and the losing. Lots of time spent being pregnant and nothing to show for it. Good luck to you!

it is realy hard and unfortunately nothing stops you from being scared and you just have to hope that the next one sticks.

i find that i feel alot more confident if i get sick and dont have spotting. my first 2 M/C i had spotting i never had any sickness and i had spotting.
with my first 2 babies i had no spotting and was sick by 6 weeks (though i still couldnt shake the fear).
with DS3 i had spotting and wasnt sick at 6 weeks so was sure i would lose him, then the sickness hit at 7 weeks i was so releived until i spotted again at 10 weeks, i was so scared. but obviously he was fine.

i just M/C again in november @5 weeks and i had spotting so i knew i was going to M/C and tried not to attatch myself and just hoped it happened early and not later like my other ones, thats not to say i wasnt devestated when i lost it though.

so of course im scared it will happen again but we want another baby and we are trying to have a girl but i have a funny feeling that the ones we lost may have been girls and maybe i cant carry girls but its a risk we have to take, unfortunately its not something we have control over.

best of luck.

Hi

I am new to this site so hopefully you don't mind me replying to your question.

I lost twins in 2003 while I was at work and I had to be rushed to hospitial as I had a major bleed. Hubby and I would like to try for a baby this year currently I have the implanon in my arm which is going to be removed in the coming weeks but the more I think about it I am getting very nervous and scared that my first experience of pregnancy will happen all over again. Honestly I am not sure how to get over these fears as I would like to experience motherhood.

I hope you find a way to get over your fears as well - take care

Hi

I am new to this site so hopefully you don't mind me replying to your question.

I lost twins in 2003 while I was at work and I had to be rushed to hospitial as I had a major bleed. Hubby and I would like to try for a baby this year currently I have the implanon in my arm which is going to be removed in the coming weeks but the more I think about it I am getting very nervous and scared that my first experience of pregnancy will happen all over again. Honestly I am not sure how to get over these fears as I would like to experience motherhood.

I hope you find a way to get over your fears as well - take care

I had a bad first experience with mine and I was terrified that the same would happen to the others that I would try for so I didn't want to be attached to the pregnancy (but that failed lol) I haven't over come the fear so to speak as I am having my second one and it still hasn't elliminated
my fears but I had to try as I would have never had known the little man that I have and the bub to be



good luck

Wondering how the ladies who have gone through miscarriages are feeling about ttc again? I didn't have a care in the world during my first two pregnancies and so it came as a bit of a shock to lose my third bub. But after losing number 3 there was NO WAY I thought I'd lose number 4 too - I thought I'd had my bad luck. But now I am almost expecting to lose the next one if I fall pregnant. How do you get your head around it all??? I'm feeling positive one moment and very negative the next.

Hey Sam,

I know you were in our thread and I am sorry for your losses it is hard I don't think the fear ever goes away as my 1st experience was not the best but I have my little boy now it would be harder the more you lose but I say don't give up (but IF it does get to emotionally draining) and don't want to go through it anymore that is ok too but I wish you luck through whatever decision you choose to do

Of course you would feel scared that you're going to lose the baby next time you're pregnant, all of us miscarriage survivors feel that way. It's a horrible feeling, but I know I am going to have a baby this year.

I had my first MC in June at 11 weeks and I was devastated, but I needed to keep TTC - it was something I just couldn't give up on. (I was told this MC was the result of getting pregnant too soon after coming off the pill.) I had my second MC in September at 5 weeks. I think both MC's were the result of stress. I am a highly strung person to begin with, and the stress of doctors, my so-called friends, and blood tests on top of my regular work/financial stresses was too much for me.

DH and I have got a plan for our next pregnancy - we are not going to the doctor until after I am 6 weeks, I am not going for HCG blood tests every second day, and I am not going for a dating scan until after 8 weeks at least. I will just keep doing HPT's twice a week and as long as the line is nice and dark, that will be good enough for us.

It's perfectly understandable that you would feel worried about what would happen if you fell pregnant again. I hope that you find a peace about whatever you decide to do smile

Hi

I am new to this site so hopefully you don't mind me replying to your question.

I lost twins in 2003 while I was at work and I had to be rushed to hospitial as I had a major bleed. Hubby and I would like to try for a baby this year currently I have the implanon in my arm which is going to be removed in the coming weeks but the more I think about it I am getting very nervous and scared that my first experience of pregnancy will happen all over again. Honestly I am not sure how to get over these fears as I would like to experience motherhood.

I hope you find a way to get over your fears as well - take care

Hi Mish12 and welcome. Thanks for sharing your story. I wish you all the luck in the world.

Hey Sam,

I know you were in our thread and I am sorry for your losses it is hard I don't think the fear ever goes away as my 1st experience was not the best but I have my little boy now it would be harder the more you lose but I say don't give up (but IF it does get to emotionally draining) and don't want to go through it anymore that is ok too but I wish you luck through whatever decision you choose to do

Hi Unique1, glad to see things are going along well for you. Thanks for your kind words.

Of course you would feel scared that you're going to lose the baby next time you're pregnant, all of us miscarriage survivors feel that way. It's a horrible feeling, but I know I am going to have a baby this year.

I had my first MC in June at 11 weeks and I was devastated, but I needed to keep TTC - it was something I just couldn't give up on. (I was told this MC was the result of getting pregnant too soon after coming off the pill.) I had my second MC in September at 5 weeks. I think both MC's were the result of stress. I am a highly strung person to begin with, and the stress of doctors, my so-called friends, and blood tests on top of my regular work/financial stresses was too much for me.

DH and I have got a plan for our next pregnancy - we are not going to the doctor until after I am 6 weeks, I am not going for HCG blood tests every second day, and I am not going for a dating scan until after 8 weeks at least. I will just keep doing HPT's twice a week and as long as the line is nice and dark, that will be good enough for us.

It's perfectly understandable that you would feel worried about what would happen if you fell pregnant again. I hope that you find a peace about whatever you decide to do smile

Hey Mel-O, I did the same last time - really waited a long while before going to GP and before doing any blood tests and scans.

I really wasn't at all worried that I would lose my last baby as I figured I'd only just had a miscarriage and there was no way it could happen again. The thing I struggle with is that my two miscarriages were the result of two completely different causes. Two very different freak events. I was happy to cop my first miscarriage on the chin, but I am rather p***ed off about my last one - ha! I'll definitely be trying again.

Thank you all for joining the conversation. I find that most people in our real worlds just expect you to push it down and forget about it. My two miscarriages (both natural) were very different experiences physically and emotionally. There doesn't seem to be much spoken about what you have to go through physically with a natural miscarriage particularly when baby is a bit older. Interesting.

Thank you all for joining the conversation. I find that most people in our real worlds just expect you to push it down and forget about it. My two miscarriages (both natural) were very different experiences physically and emotionally. There doesn't seem to be much spoken about what you have to go through physically with a natural miscarriage particularly when baby is a bit older. Interesting.

i agree, i tend to scoot around what actualy happened with my M/C's and it can be horrible physically. my second M/C was @12 weeks and i had to push it out and the 'cramps' were quite painful.

i agree, i tend to scoot around what actualy happened with my M/C's and it can be horrible physically. my second M/C was @12 weeks and i had to push it out and the 'cramps' were quite painful.

Yes, I went through contractions exactly like a real labour. If I'd not experienced labour before I'd have thought something was seriously wrong because the pain was so intense. A really interesting experience - I knew my baby was no longer alive so had been waiting for about a week for it to happen. I was on holidays and it was Christmas Day and I couldn't get any pain relief, but actually felt as though I needed to completely feel the pain anyway.

Thank you all for joining the conversation. I find that most people in our real worlds just expect you to push it down and forget about it. My two miscarriages (both natural) were very different experiences physically and emotionally. There doesn't seem to be much spoken about what you have to go through physically with a natural miscarriage particularly when baby is a bit older. Interesting.

I agree! There's not very much information out there about what to expect in a MC.
I had never been pregnant before so I really had no idea what was going on. It was an absolutely terrifying ordeal! I searched for advice and information but didn't find anything to prepare me for what was going to happen. I suppose it's not a topic that's readily discussed.
No one told me that a few days afterwards my uterus would shrink and that would be very painful too - I ended up at the ED one night and was put on tramadol!

I lost my 2nd. Baby at 16 wks natural birth.20.07.2000
Lost. My 4th at 11wks D&C 10.11.2011


Scared. Me hurts. Like hell.

I still. &always. Will love them

Thank God every day for my boys. Pray I can have more babies trying to this yr.

Hello ladies,
hope you don't mind if I jump in on your thread. I'm absolutely petrified Sam!! I've had 2 m/c's. One in 2008 and one in March last year. It has taken me this long to get pregnant again and I am so scared to have bloods taken or to go and have that first scan. I just don't think I can go through the heartbreak again of either finding nothing in there, or that the baby has died.
I guess we just have to TRY and stay positive and optimistic. All great in theory but so hard to do!!!
Good luck everyone!

Hello ladies,
hope you don't mind if I jump in on your thread. I'm absolutely petrified Sam!! I've had 2 m/c's. One in 2008 and one in March last year. It has taken me this long to get pregnant again and I am so scared to have bloods taken or to go and have that first scan. I just don't think I can go through the heartbreak again of either finding nothing in there, or that the baby has died.
I guess we just have to TRY and stay positive and optimistic. All great in theory but so hard to do!!!
Good luck everyone!

Hi Purplepossum, I wish you the best of luck. Yes, you're right all the positive energy in the world isn't going to change fate is it? Very scary. I've just returned from my GP who I was expecting to tell me everything will be cool next time, but she is sending me for blood tests to investigate why I'm having miscarriages. I'm like, 'what, there could actually be something wrong with me?' I hadn't even considered that and just thought it was bad luck. Now I'm stressing even more. Need to focus on something else I think. Though it has been helpful to chat to others on here about it all. Thank you.

I had a MC in September & we are trying to concieve again but I can't help worrying it will happen again. I think it is in the back of every women's mind just a tiny bit when pregnant bt more so when you have suffered from loss. We have DS1 who is 2 & would love a baby brother or sister for him. I also have autoimmune throid with Hashimotos (diagnosed nearly 10 years ago when I was 19) but also wonder if there is something wrong with me from having the emergency c-section with DS1 - such as adhesions that could contribute to MC.

I'm very nervous also about getting pregnant again.

I have only had one m/c, was at 9-10weeks, and the reason was the twins were sharing everything so couldn't survive. But I am still worried next time that something else will go wrong.
If I get pregnant again I have decided not to tell anyone except partner and my mum until about 15weeks. Last time we told close family who then without permission told the rest of the family which just made it harder when we lost them.

One of my close friends had a M/C last year, and became pregnant again almost straight away, which makes me more nervous as I don't know how I'll cope with being this babies godmother if I deep inside am having my own battles with wanting a baby.

Anyone else feel its so unfair how some people can have baby after baby, some who mistreat and abandon them, while some who desperately want one have to endure such pain?

Hi ladies,
I have had two miscarriages myself. One about three years ago.. went for a scan at 16 weeks & found the baby had died at 9 weeks. Another miscarriage last year in September where I went for 12 week scan and baby had died at 8 weeks. I am absolutely terrified about becoming pregnant again. I am especially scared because both my miscarriages were missed and had no signs until the scan... I am also worried that I will never be able to carry a baby & am desperate to become a mother. We are currently TTC and when/if I fall pregnant we won't be telling anyone until around 15 weeks and will try not to become too attached (which is pretty much impossible!).

Anyone else feel its so unfair how some people can have baby after baby, some who mistreat and abandon them, while some who desperately want one have to endure such pain?

Yes, I know what you mean. I was having my latest mc on xmas day and had to visit my sil with her new baby for the first time - throughout the day she would happily breastfeed, then go outside for a smoke. I was horrified and disgusted. I'm wondering if she smoked through the pregnancy. We live interstate so I don't know. I had assumed she'd given up - perhaps not. I try not to judge others but its hard when you're doing the right thing and it doesn't work out, and then others just do whatever and everything's fine for them. That's my vent over - lol.

Hi ladies,
I have had two miscarriages myself. One about three years ago.. went for a scan at 16 weeks & found the baby had died at 9 weeks. Another miscarriage last year in September where I went for 12 week scan and baby had died at 8 weeks. I am absolutely terrified about becoming pregnant again. I am especially scared because both my miscarriages were missed and had no signs until the scan... I am also worried that I will never be able to carry a baby & am desperate to become a mother. We are currently TTC and when/if I fall pregnant we won't be telling anyone until around 15 weeks and will try not to become too attached (which is pretty much impossible!).

Sorry for your losses... Yes, you expect if you get pregnant you will get a baby at the end of it don't you? But after a few losses you start to expect that you'll get pregnant then have a mc. Surely we've had our bad luck now and it will all turn around for us x

Sorry for your losses... Yes, you expect if you get pregnant you will get a baby at the end of it don't you? But after a few losses you start to expect that you'll get pregnant then have a mc. Surely we've had our bad luck now and it will all turn around for us x

God, that sums up exactly how I feel!!
FX we all get our happy endings this year!!

Hi Sam,

I to am like you i have had 2 boys go on to have my 3rd get to almost our 20 week ultra sound well it was only a couple of days befor i lost our baby. At 20 weeks i thought it was all ok i told everyone about our good news etc went onto buy alot of stuff and then bam all of a matter of half an hour i was going into labour and pushed out baby out.

Now i still want a 4th baby but i am scared as to will this happen again. I am not sure at what stage i lost our baby i did know the first ultra sound at 8 weeks showed babys heart was fine and everything was ok. But the doctor was asking me how come i knew i was 20 weeks along so it makes me wonder if it was gone a while befor then but my body rejected it and made me go into labour.

I am scared about it all to tell you the truth how can i tell the people i love i am having a baby when i got to 20 weeks and i lost it. How can i face people at work etc.

So now i am making a plan that if we do i am not saying anything until that 20 week ultra sound is done. Their is no way i can let people say all that stuff to me again.

I am happy to be trying to have another one but at the same time scared.

Ive just had a m/c at 6 weeks (We found out I was pregnant at 4 weeks & 2 days)

The pregnancy was not planned but a very welcome suprise. It felt as if we had just settled in to being pregnant and then we lost bub, all happened really quickly.

My partner doesnt seem to be as scared as me about TTC again. I am really scared & find myself thinking about what if it happens again & further on in the pregnancy.

Ive had 5 miscarages, two sons and I'm currently 11 weeks pregnant.

I lost my first at 20 weeks, my second at 16 weeks, started bleeding at 6 weeks with number three went to the hospital was scanned and told it was twins, was scanned two weeks later and there was just the one bub. had an uneventful pregnancy till 28 weeks when my BP started to climb, was later diagnosed with pre eclampsia, admitted at 34 weeks and induced at 36. Luka was my first baby to live and him and me both went home healthy after about a week.

Lost baby number four at 10 weeks. Was induced at 34 weeks after spending 17 weeks in and out of hospital with high BP, SPD and Decklan had an enlarged/ over active kidney. Both of us were fine and went home after a week.

lost baby number six at 5 weeks, Lost baby number seven at 6 weeks. Now I'm 11 weeks with baby number eight...

IM TERRIFIED!!!!!!!

My SPD is already coming back, it had me on crutches by 28 weeks last time... I am so scared that I will loose this one too and even more scared that I will have another complicated pregnancy and premature birth.

After divorcing my first husband a few yeas ago I now only get to see my sons once a week.

I'm marrying my WONDERFUL fiance in a little over 2 weeks now and I've made it pretty clear that this is the only chance he's going t get at being a father... I feel VERY mean saying that but at the same time I cant bury another baby, and both my sons nearly killed me. Literaly.

I belive everything happens for a reason, I think I have to or I'd go insane. I just hope everything goes ok this time and we get a healthy baby and a healthy me at the end of this.

I had a miscarriage at the beginning of the year after our twins stopped growing at 10 weeks. We were shocked to find out we got pregnant again so fast but now am absolutely terrified.

Monday I started having some brown discharge and it has continued since, I am so convinced I've lost the baby again. There is no blood, just brown, but I still think its just a matter of time.
I have a scan tomorrow morning, and am trying to prepare myself for the worst. sad

I had a miscarriage at the beginning of the year after our twins stopped growing at 10 weeks. We were shocked to find out we got pregnant again so fast but now am absolutely terrified.

Monday I started having some brown discharge and it has continued since, I am so convinced I've lost the baby again. There is no blood, just brown, but I still think its just a matter of time.
I have a scan tomorrow morning, and am trying to prepare myself for the worst. sad

Good luck with your scan... i hope there is nothing wrong...as it is brown blood it is old blood...

Sorry to hear everyone's stories... especially you Kitteh... i couldnt do what you have been through...

AFM i have suffered 2 miscarriages and they have been between pregnancies..

i had DS1, then miscarriage FEB 2006, DS2, then miscarriage December 2011..

i too am feeling scared as i am TTC, as the experience of a miscarriage is really sad... i feel i should have 4 beautiful children but thankfully i have 2...

Currently i dont know what is going on with my body as i was supposed to get AF last monday and still not here... AF symptoms and cramping slightly, HPT says negative... but i am not sure... i just hope i am not losing another bub as i will be devistated...

I had a miscarriage at 17 weeks in JUly last year with my first baby. I got to hold him and name him and everything which I guess helped the healing process. Hard thing was that he was completely healthy. THe miscarriage was my fault because I had gotten an infection and didn't realise it. I thought it was blood that was coming out and just kept calling my midwife who sent me for a scan which showed everything was fine so she just told me not to worry about it. It wasn't until this had been going on for nearly 3 weeks that I finally went to the doctor and found out it was actually an infection. I started antibiotics and everything but only 3 days later I went in to premature labour and ended up in hospital being told there was nothing they could do. Had to have a D&C to get the placenta out but had to push my son out like a normal labour...was horrible. Am pregnant again now (nearly 6 weeks) but again I have an infection and am freaking out that I will have a repeat of last time.

I've already started antibiotics and am hoping that we have caught it early this time but I don't think I will cope if something goes wrong with this pregnancy too.