Im new to the forum & just wondering how long you should wait to DTD after a natural miscarriage?

We found out I was pregnant at 4 weeks & 2 days. I miscarried at 6 weeks 7.2.12. Until yesterday I had been bleeding pretty heavily. Today I'd hardly call it bleeding, Just a bit of a brown stain when I wipe. Havent had any cramps/pain for a few days either.

I know some Drs advise you to wait until you have atleast had 1 cycle for dating reasons if you fall pregnant but Id just like to know if there is a basic rule for how long to wait to have sex? Some articles Ive read said the cervix could still be open even after bleeding stops? & their could be a high risk for infection?

I would take the time that you need to greive before you try again. It's a very sad time.

I would get the go ahead from your doc before jumping back in the saddle. They may do an ultrasound to check that your miscarriage was complete and that you don't have any retained 'product' as they call it. Once this happens you should be OK to start having sex again and to start TTC.

My obs doesn't seem to think that there is any physical reason to wait once a complete miscarriage is confirmed. If dating is an issue, then that's what dating scans are for.

But jumping back in without taking the time to deal with the emotions of lossing the first one would probably be my biggest concern. Good luck with your decision and TTC again. Take care of yourself.

Firstly, I am so sorry for your loss. It's such a devastating thing to lose a baby.

As for waiting, I discussed this with a fertility specialist after my first miscarriage and he said there was no medical reason to wait. Doctors tell you to wait mostly for emotional healing, and so that if you do conceive again straight away, they will have a date to go on for your last period.

You're right about your cervix being slightly more open after a MC, and this actually makes you more fertile (or so I have read) in the 3 months following a MC.

I hope you are able to fall pregnant again soon, if you are emotionally ready x

There is no right or wrong time... Its totally up to you when..

My doctor said its easy to fall pregnant after a miscarriage.

I had my period the following month and the next month after that i was pregnant.


If you feel ready to have sex then by all means do it if you're not ready then dont..

You will know if and when the time is right.

Good luck.

Hi, I am sorry for your loss. I lost my little girl, Eloise, on Oct 13th 2011 at 41.3 weeks (freak accident during labour). I wanted a baby so asked the question of when we could try again. The midwives and doctors all said the same thing - when you are ready! Your body is an amazing thing and will concieve only when it is ready! If you are emotionally ready then go for it! I wish you the best of luck!

Thanks Ladies for your kind words smile

Its not so much the TTC that Im worried about. We've decided to wait the 1 cycle.. We just want that peice of mind of knowing my body is doing what its suposed to again!

But we were both a bit confused as to when it was o.k to be intimate again. The open cervix was worrying me & I know he was a bit worried about doing any damage.

Clax - Ive already had 2 scans. The day of the miscarriage I woke up bleeding & with cramps so I went to the Dr who sent me for a scan & unfortuntly there was no evidence of the pregnancy which suggested a complete miscarriage.(I know when I passed the embryo sad)The sonographer said the lining of my uterus was really, really thick. By thursday the bleeding had become worse, quite heavy & the cramps were a bit like early labour pains so we fronted at the drs again, he sent me for an urgent scan to cheak for retained products. The Lining was still really thick but from what they could see there is no retained products. The report says I need a follow up scan in 10-12 days or if bleeding becomes heavy again.

where also taking the time to grieve. Thanks for your concern. The baby was not planned for but a very, very welcome suprise. It felt as if we had just come to terms with having a baby (my 2nd, his 1st) & very happy & then we lost the baby sad The last week has been a rollercoaster of emotions! But where getting there smile

I miscarried in sep last year had one cycle in October then fell pregnant in November I'm 15 weeks pregnant at the moment smile It's all up to u if u feel comfortable to start trying again my doctor said wait 4 months but to me was too long & would just mean I'd spend that entire time thinking about being pregnant .

Physically they say wait at least 1 cycle (so have a period between miscarriage and trying again) but emotionally it depends on you and how you feel.

I was ready to TTC after 1 cycle and luckily we got there first try, good luck with your TTC journey


PS I miscarried naturally but still had bleeding 2 weeks later and needed a D&C for a tiny piece of something that hadn't come away.

After a week with no bleeding or cramping last night I started to bleed again?? heavy & I passed a clot(sorry tmi). Id only got the all clear from the Dr earlier that day. The bleeding isnt too heavy today but still there. Will have to go back to the Dr & find out what is happening with my body.

So sorry you are still going through this.

I would definately check with your doc asap. If you are still retaining product you may need a D & C to make sure that no infection occurs.

Although my next period after a miscarriage was always much heavier than usual so it may be possible that you have your period again? Just a thought.

Still bleeding (heavy with clots) but with no pain or cramps. Have an appointment at the Dr tomorrow.

I was thinking maybe it is just my period. But its been 8 days, with no sign of it getting lighter or stopping? Really starting to feel drained, with no energy and having the flu on top of it all doesnt help.

If you have flu like symptoms ie a raised temperature and body aches I would definately check with the doctor that you don't have any retained product that is causing an infection.

I know I had a 'complete miscarriage' but ended up with a temperature three weeks later and a piece of product less than the size of a five cent piece was still in there and starting to infect.

You can never be too careful with these things. If you just have the flu with runny nose and cold symptoms it might just be a period. But keep on top of it either way.

It is such an awful reminder of what has happened when it just drags on like this. I'm so sorry you are going through this.

Your not wrong Clax, I feel so down & out.

I went back to the Dr yesterday & my temp was a little high, BP wasnt too bad. He felt around my stomach & at one point I almost jumped off the bed. He thinks I have an infection of the womb which is causing the bleeding. Im on anti bs & also had another scan today. The lining of the womb is still really thick & Ive got a cyst on my left ovary that has been bleeding into itself? The sonographer said he could not see any retained product but the Dr may choose to send me for a d&c just to clean everything out & try & stop this bleeding etc.. so I can get on with the healing process.. I feel like ive taken a step backwards in the grieving process. I just feel so down & out these last few days.

Im going back to the Dr tomorrow to see what he wants to do.

Thanks for your support Clax smile

I'm glad you went and had it checked out smile

I had another scan yesterday & went back to the dr today. The bleeding has stopped & ive finished the course of anti bs. Scan looked good. The cyst is alot smaller now & the lining is back to normal. The sonographer said I look to be about day 7 of a new cycle. Dr thinks it was definetly the infection that made me bleed again for 14 days straight. Im just relieved it all came away naturally in the end. Doesnt make it any easier though.

Thanks for all the support ladies smile