Sorry to hear what you have been going through.
If its ok to ask I was just wondering how you went, I hope it was a good outcome.
I'm not sure if what happened with me could be useful information at all, I haven't read all the above posts but I have miscarried twice this year, both pregnancies after my 19mth old son which was my first pregnancy and lucky to have had him without complications in pregnancy and birth. (I'm 21)
The first miscarriage I was still breastfeeding, I miscarried at 9 weeks and had expelled everything naturally however it was a 3 week process, I had an internal ultrasound which showed a small cyst on left ovary which apparently is no reason for concern and that there was still something in the cervical canal within the week of first realising I was losing the baby on Easter Sunday morning. I stalled going to the dr as I had no pain after the initial first lot of blood as it disappeared after pushing a big part out, just blood, slight cramping & clots heavy after that the first few days but it eased and then just random clots throughout the weeks that followed until it just stopped. I would just feel pressure when I needed to expell anything. I was advised to wait just one cycle before trying again which we did. A theory brought up was that maybe my very efficient uterus contracting when breastfeeding may have contributed to pushing the baby out but I accepted it as it just didn't have what it needed to continue whether that be nutrients or the correct DNA match up etc. It also really infuriated me to hear people say "It wasn't meant to be, it will happen when the time is right, maybe it was too soon, you should wait a year or thats why you don't tell anyone until after 12 wks" as I wanted my baby so bad and I realise its all that anyone can say but its just so insensitive to hear from immediate family/friends that are supposed to just support you. I have also realised the topic is alot more awkward for others to hear than for me to talk about and so I now just tell if I am asked if people want to know.
My second miscarriage I didn't even realise I had until my 12 week scan, I had no spotting at all until the day before my scan so I got worried but convinced myself it should be nothing maybe I'd been too busy or it was a little residual blood from intercourse a few days before and I had felt unwell, sore breasts and very tired so I had assumed that everything was going really well. My Toddler had also weaned from breastfeeding prior to this pregnancy so I thought maybe that had helped give myself and pregnancy more nutrients.
I went to my 12 week scan and realised the baby had no heartbeat before the ultrasound tech had said anything, it turned out the baby did not progress from 7wks which coincidently after some thought my Husband remembered I was complaining of a really sharp abdomen pain when I drove to pick him up after he had a car accident which was at exactly 7wks but I thought nothing of that pain as I had no spotting and still felt pregnant and just put it down to being constipated and I hadn't felt anything like that again after that day.
I was asked to return to the hospital to discuss my options, 1 was wait and see like the miscarriage before, 2 was the induction tablets to try to speed it up naturally and 3 was a D&C.
I chose to book for a D&C incase my body didn't expel it any time soon as it had been there for 5 wks without moving already and to try and avoid any further major blood loss as my iron stores were still low from last time.
I didn't make it to the D&C appointment made as my body took over that very night at 8pm so I thought its ok I will do it own my own again and avoid unnecessary surgery which was going fine from then until 1:30am when I had a lot of pressure rather than pain to push but I felt like I still needed to sleep and felt I was going to pass out after which I did. My Husband called the ambulance, I was only out of it a few seconds but they took me to hospital anyway where they did blood tests and put an IV in, I felt a lot calmer there and was no longer in pain just still a little pressure.
They said it is common after a big blood loss or an intense moment of pain for the blood pressure to drop which caused me to pass out. They didn't allow me to eat or drink incase they were going to do a d&c that morning and they did.
I felt ok after the d&c, was just looking forward to seeing my little man and going home to rest and just had little discharge for 10days after and am now just waiting for my cycle to return. I have been advised to wait 2 cycles.
They also told me they think I have just been unlucky so far to have had 2 miscarriages in a row and if it happens again that will be when they will test to see what is going on.
Sorry if this is too much information or irrelevant but I thought I'd share as everyone is different and it seems to be such a variable experience. I hope this information can help anyone else that has to go through it.
I was also told by the hospital which could be useful information that when someone has miscarried and need to or choose to have a d&c they will do their best to book you within the week to reduce stress and do prioritise urgency. I thought I would mention this too as with my first miscarriage the dr I did see was not my own gp but just a local one who organised the u/s and when she got the results back that there was still something inside she wanted me to just go to the emergency department to be seen and I asked her why as she said it was not urgent but that she wanted a gp there to assess me and I told her that is really inconvenient and made no sense and asked her why she wouldn't just refer me straight to a maternal department within the hospital instead so I have an appointment to be seen rather than going into que in emergency with my little one to be seen by a gp and go over it all over again and then be told that they will make me an appointment to return to see the maternal department or have the d&c next available business day or whatever to reduce stress but she was determined for me to waste my time which my own gp confirmed would have been a complete waste of time and that he would book me straight into the appropriate area if I hadn't passed the rest on my own by the following week, so if you want to, do the research as its all a bad enough experience without the added stress of being stuffed around.
Just do what is best for you, your body and whats best recovery for your family and yourself to heal afterwards.