Scared & Confused

Hi everyone, first time post and looking for something I guess. I went in for my ultrasound on Tuesday, only to be told there was no heartbeat. This was shattering news as I have not had any bleeding, cramping etc and still having normal pregnancy symptoms. Our baby was measuring 8.5 weeks and I am technically 11. I have had blood tests completed on Wednesday, and again today, and also scheduled for another ultrasound next week! My first hcg levels where 12000! I am so confused and scared at the moment as I don't know what to expect! I am trying to accept the fact we have lost our baby, but everything else does not indicate that! If we infact have, why is my body not recognizing it?

If you have lost your baby it is called a missed miscarriage. I had one when trying for my 2nd. I was 10wks and bub measured around 9. I had no bleeding or cramping and ended up opting for a d&c as I didn't want to wait around for a natural miscarriage to happen.

Big hugs. It's a hard time. I hope things work out for the best but unfortunately it is very common. And if a heartbeat could not be found it probably isn't very hopeful. Sorry don't mean to sound harsh. How you have lots of support around you to get thrOugh this. Xx

I too experienced this almost 3 weeks ago, scan at 9 weeks showed baby measured 8 weeks 1 day, but my uterus only measured 6 weeks... I too had no signs that anything was wrong... I had a d&c the next

Sending hugs xo

realy sorry to hear about this. my first pregnancy was a missed M/C. i was 11 weeks but everything measured 8 weeks, i had gone for a scan because of some bleeding, it was a long time ago but if i remember correctly i think i lost the baby the next morning. i never had bloods done so i have no idea what my levels were but we did have a scan at 6 weeks (due to spotting) and there was a heartbeat so the M/C was quite unexpected. if you havent lost anything after a week then i would suggest going back for another scan just to make sure that it actualy is a M/C and for some reason dates/measurments werent wrong and go from there.

Hi everyone, well I got my 2nd lot of bloods back to which the dr advised they had dropped by 5000! No hope that baby has survived. I would now be 11.5 weeks pregnant, still no spotting, cramping anything! All I can do now is wait to be called into the hospital. I feel for anyone in this situation, especially with no signs that there is anything wrong as it is very upsetting and heartbreaking. Hubby is being a great support, but I am still scared of the unknown that is to follow!

I'm so sorry Anne that you are having to go thro this.
Be good to each other & give yourself the time to greive is my advice.

Plant a tree or do something nice to remember your wee angel.

You will see the sunshine again, i promise

Thank you to everyone who commented, it did help somewhat. I went in for my surgery yesterday, and I am feeling somewhat empty...
I put some of my words into a blog, they are probably ly a bit messed up at the moment & I will fix it as I pick up myself but I hope in someway it helps someone.
http://themword.weebly.com/....

So sorry for your loss. I know what you mean about feeling empty, it's an awful feeling. Take your time to grieve and cry. Big hugs. It does get easier as time goes on but you will never forget your little angel.

Everyone is different, but for me I found I couldn't heal until I was pregnant again as I just always felt empty. So I started trying again after my cycle returned. But some people need to take some time out to heal. Whatever works for you. Xx

I read your blog and it was like I had written it myself. Your story is the same as mine. I lost 2 babies when trying for our 2nd. And I can tell you that you will get through it and come out the otherside. Big hugs again.

Very sorry your having to go through this. I had the same kind of thing but I had a molar so they got me in pretty much straight away for a DnC, I didnt even get a choice but I think if I had of I'd still choose to have a DnC. It does take you by surprise and its very hard to believe when you've had no symptoms to suggest you've miscarried.

Anne, Im so sorry you are going through this.

I had the exact thing happen to me at the end of january this yr when i was suppose to be 12+6 bub was only measuring 8+4 and there was no heartbeat. I also had no miscarriage symptoms and was still having morning sickness etc. We spoke to our doc, then were referred to an ob at the hospital and decided to have a D&C 2 days later.

It is a devastating thing to go through and was such a tough time for us. I bawled for days and was still crying myself to sleep weeks later. If you need to talk to someone feel free to msg me.