All I want is a natural, drug free delivery.
I am so terrified of having to get a c-sections that I almost dry retch everytime I think of the word "cesarean".
I have considered staying at home as long as possible before going to the hospital just so that I don't have drugs etc forced upon me.
The hospital that I will be birthing at seems to have a high rate of C-section's coming out of there. I know only one lady who had a natural birth in this hospital.
How can I put my mind at ease without seeming like a total control freak by begging my midwife for an answer to a question that can't really be answered?
What are my rights when it comes to my birthing plan? Can I say no to a Cesarean??
I havent been told many nice stories - I'm over hearing about the horror stories!
You have the right to refuse drugs and a c-section. It's your body after all. They can't force you to have a c-section or to have pain relief.
However, these people are in this profession for a reason. To deliver healthy babies. If your bubs heartbeat is slowing down or is getting erratic and they are in distress let the Dr's help you. If it means a c-section I'm sure you'd rather that then a stillborn. That might sound harsh but at the end of the day as long as the baby is born healthy what does it matter how it came out?
All wounds will heal, scars will fade. Worrying about things that might not happen is not good for you or the baby. So relax, make a birthing plan but allow for changes or for the whole thing to go out the window. Nothing can be set in stone. A healthy baby is the end result you want. Focus on that. Put the other worries aside, no point dwelling on what might be the inevitable. Make it clear to your MW what you want, and to your support person too so they can speak for you as well. Talk about the risks involved in refusing medical intervention. Ask that every option be available to you and all pros and cons talked about. Get all the info you can, being well informed will ease some fears and at least then you'll know what to expect.
Trust me, the second your baby is in your arms you'll laugh at how worried you were. And you'll probably even think 'That wasn't so bad, I'd do it all over again in a heartbeat.'. smile