more babies?

I'm a little unsure as to what i want to do at the moment, so i thought i would ask you ladies, What made you decide how many kids to have?

Was it something you and your partner agreed on straight away or something that wasnt discussed, etc?

If you have finished your family, do you ever feel upset that you wont be having more?


TIA

Hi there,
When we started our family, we had decided two close together then a gap of 4 yrs maybe then maybe another two... we have since decided to only have three all close together. smile My final decision really. I didn't see the point in waiting 4 yrs to only have one more.

We knew in our hearts we were done after we conceived our lil girl, confirmed definitely when we found out she was A DD! Also the stress and coping of my body has lead me to believe that this will be my last pregnancy, and I'm very at peace with the fact she will be my last. I will miss the internal movement, but I think thats it. This pregnancy has been very rough for me.

We also have DS#1 whose almost 3, and DS#2 whose 18 months (so 16 months between them) and there will be 20 months between DS#2 and DD.

My husband and I both came from 3 kid families, so we kinda feel that thats enough and a DD will complete our family. So we are happy in the knowledge that we have indeed finished.

Good Luck
Lottie

DF and I agreed a long time ago(before we were even really a couple) that one day we would have four kids. Two close together and then a couple of years gap and then another two close together!

DF only has a brother and always wanted another brother or sister! So he wanted three!
I always said that I would never have three kids as I hated being one of three(I have two sisters) as there's always an oldest, a youngest and one stuck in the middle. I just find families of three seem to be so bitchy! I know not all families are the same but the few families of three I knew were so bitchy and my theory is if you only have two then they only have one other to fight with plus there's no odd one out if two gang up on the other.

So the compromise was four!

I always thought having four kids was crazy too! Just too big but hey! Look at me now! I would not have it any other way!

I'm so glad we discussed this first as I know so many people who are in a difficult situation as one wants another and their partner does not!

I think i'm finished! Can't be sure as it has not been that long since I had DS2. It probably helps that I had a pretty bad pregnancy with DS2 as my hips were killing me most of the way through pregnancy and still make my life very difficult! Although it is improving. Atleast I can usually walk to the toilet without pain now!
My first three pregnancies were great! Had to keep reminding my self that I was pregnant most of the time!

It will be hard as I will probably start to sell or give away some things soon, especially girly things, but hey, that's life!

Thanks ladies, you've given me a lot to think about smile I appreciate it.

When DH and i got together we both wanted 4 kids. DS wasnt planned, dd1 was sorta planned and there is a two age gap between them. DH and i had a really rocky relationship after dd1 was born. So although we both wanted more kids, we didnt want them at the time. (if that makes sense) DD2 came alone 4 years later and as much as i want baby number 4 there is no way that we can afford another baby dh had the snip. I still would love another baby, i go out and see pregnant women and i get jealous that i will never be pregnant again. But at the same time, i am thankful that i do already have three beautiful, healthy kids.

When DH and i got together we both wanted 4 kids. DS wasnt planned, dd1 was sorta planned and there is a two age gap between them. DH and i had a really rocky relationship after dd1 was born. So although we both wanted more kids, we didnt want them at the time. (if that makes sense) DD2 came alone 4 years later and as much as i want baby number 4 there is no way that we can afford another baby dh had the snip. I still would love another baby, i go out and see pregnant women and i get jealous that i will never be pregnant again. But at the same time, i am thankful that i do already have three beautiful, healthy kids.

I cant for the life of me remember the conversation (about how many kids we wanted). I know we had it. I remember that we both took it very seriously, but i cannot remember how many we both said we wanted. I think after having dd1 the whole 'plan' went out the window.

dd2 wasnt planned. If it was up to hubby we would have just had miss froggy.

While i am happy with our family of four and somedays laugh at the idea of having more (like today....naughty little munchkins <img src='http://www.huggies.com.au/forum/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/dry.gif' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='<_<' /> <img src='http://www.huggies.com.au/forum/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/dry.gif' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='<_<' /> ) I feel like we will have another one (or two). It's inevitable. That is exactly how i felt the month before i concieved dd2.

I just dont know whether to up the efforts to prevent another pregnancy or let happen what is meant to happen. I really dont think hubby would handle another baby well. I would lol.

Argh! So confused. Any advice would be appreciated.

we both always wanted 2. we were happy but i was always thinking it would be nice for a 3rd. now that we have our 3rd she is just what we needed to full our family.
and i dont not ever, want any more i just know.