Anyone else felt this way while TTC?

hi ladies smile
Sorry this is a bit of a vent about my sadness.
I'm feeling so crappy, DH and i are TTC#2 but it's just not happening. With DS we were not even trying and it just happened.
I never thought i would start feeling the way i am, i should be over the moon that i have the family that i do.
I have no one to talk to, we have not told any family or friends that we are TTC. Dh just dose not get the way i am feeling and neither do i really.
A very close friend of mine came to see me last week and told me that she was pregnant again and i just wan't to burst out in tears but i bit my lip smiled and acted so happy. But as soon as she left i could not stop crying.
Then DH's aunty who has 4 kids and is 43 messaged everyone a few day's ago saying that she was pregnant and it's a big accident. When i called her to say congratulations she said that it was an accident and if she knew she was pregnant before 14 weeks (thats when she found out) she would have done something about it.
And then last night i found out that a friend was also pregnant.
I swear my heart skipped a few beats (and not in a good way) and it was aching. It really hurt.
I'm not a jealous person but it seem's that it has taken over me. I never thought i would ever feel the way i am feeling and it sucks. I want to be so happy for everyone but i'm just struggling.
Sorry i just had to get this out.

Couldnt not reply hun. I get what you are saying entirely!
It took me a year to conceive my DS and at that time in our 'circle' I was the only family orientated person. Someone in that circle fell pregnant unexpectedly and did nothing but complain about it and cry how upset she was, and the she MC and cried again because she MC. I fell pregnant about a month later thankfully and when we announced it turned out there were 4 other friends from that same circle who were all due a month prior to me. If I hadnt have been pregnant then I think I would have wanted to just crawl into a hole and never come out.
I got to a point about 6-7 months into our TTC attempt and I cried because it didnt feel like it was going to happen.
My other half is not a sympathetic person at all.

I guess the thing is that when you want something so badly it just seems like it's taking forever. Doctors tend to not be concerned if you dont fall pregnant until you have been trying for a year.. And I know it's not any help but the majority of people take a while to conceive. You'll get your little bean when the time is right. Which could be now or in 3 months, or in 8 months.. It's tought, but the month that I got my BFP was the month that I had given up and was about to start fully tracking everything.
Are you charting cycles and using OPK's?

Missa_G wrote:
Couldnt not reply hun. I get what you are saying entirely!
It took me a year to conceive my DS and at that time in our 'circle' I was the only family orientated person. Someone in that circle fell pregnant unexpectedly and did nothing but complain about it and cry how upset she was, and the she MC and cried again because she MC. I fell pregnant about a month later thankfully and when we announced it turned out there were 4 other friends from that same circle who were all due a month prior to me. If I hadnt have been pregnant then I think I would have wanted to just crawl into a hole and never come out.
I got to a point about 6-7 months into our TTC attempt and I cried because it didnt feel like it was going to happen.
My other half is not a sympathetic person at all.

I guess the thing is that when you want something so badly it just seems like it's taking forever. Doctors tend to not be concerned if you dont fall pregnant until you have been trying for a year.. And I know it's not any help but the majority of people take a while to conceive. You'll get your little bean when the time is right. Which could be now or in 3 months, or in 8 months.. It's tought, but the month that I got my BFP was the month that I had given up and was about to start fully tracking everything.
Are you charting cycles and using OPK's?

Thanks for your reply smile
It's just been a crappy few weeks with everyone being pregnant. It dose feel like forever sad
I spoke to my doctor last night and he said it can take up to a year so i guess i just have to wait and hope for the best.
And yep i'm charting cycles and using OPK's. AF is due to be over tomorrow so it's a new month. I guess i'll hold my head up and carry on. Thank you. xx

How long have u been trying for?

lyra_p wrote:
How long have u been trying for?

We have only been trying for 3 months but we had been trying (see if it happens) for a month before that. And i have been charting for 7 months now. I started charting thinking "yep as soon as we start TTC i'll know my dates and it will just happen."

Oh that must make it hard sad
Funny you said that - I started charting early in hopes of the same thing, ie it being quick this time around.
Are you trying at any certain times, or right on top of O? Not saying you are doing anything wrong, but perhaps try different days before O etc. Also dont use lube unless you are sure it wont kill of the swimmers!

Missa_G wrote:
Oh that must make it hard sad
Funny you said that - I started charting early in hopes of the same thing, ie it being quick this time around.
Are you trying at any certain times, or right on top of O? Not saying you are doing anything wrong, but perhaps try different days before O etc. Also dont use lube unless you are sure it wont kill of the swimmers!

I kind of feel like i have wasted my time carting so early now lol but who knew.
We had been trying right on O for the first month but now we have been a few days before O the right on O then a few days after.
I had no idea about lube i guess that will be in the bin this month haha.

keeki wrote:
lyra_p wrote:
How long have u been trying for?

We have only been trying for 3 months but we had been trying (see if it happens) for a month before that. And i have been charting for 7 months now. I started charting thinking "yep as soon as we start TTC i'll know my dates and it will just happen."

It took us 4 months to fall pregnant with my DD. I know its hard... believe u me. Every time AF arrived I would just cry... but have faith... it will happen smile

lyra_p wrote:
keeki wrote:
lyra_p wrote:
How long have u been trying for?

We have only been trying for 3 months but we had been trying (see if it happens) for a month before that. And i have been charting for 7 months now. I started charting thinking "yep as soon as we start TTC i'll know my dates and it will just happen."

It took us 4 months to fall pregnant with my DD. I know its hard... believe u me. Every time AF arrived I would just cry... but have faith... it will happen smile

Thanks hun. I know it may take a while i just hope it dosn't take too much longer. x

Duckie.M.B wrote:
Omg could have written this myself!!!!

Since we began trying 10 months ago we have had friends have accidents and now are all starting to pop! And another batch who are a few months along.

So happy ( well for some of them, some are just utter idiots) but at same time there is that stab in the heart. And df doesn't unite understand why it hurts me so much! Men!

Big hugs darl, we will get there!!!!! (one day!)

We will get there (one day)
10 months?? And i'm crying over 3 or 4? I'm sorry it's taking you this long i hope you get your sticky baby soon.
I know it's going to take a while i just have to get use to the fact that it's just not going to happen as quick as what i thought it would take.
I feel bad feeling the way that i do but it's just something that i can not help.It is like a stab in the heart and it's kind of like your heart is falling ou when you find out someone is pregnant, did not expect to get these feelings sad
We have to stay strong and i truly hope that it dose not take us that much longer to get our BFP's.
All the best hun xx It will happen.

Hi there, like you we got pregnant straight away first time around but our second time took 7 months. It was extremley frustrating!!!! I was trying to track my cycle and ovulation all that too but my cycles were all over the place 36 days here 29 days there etc, and after 6 months I went to my doctor worried something was wrong and she said dont just try when you think youre ovulating try at all diffrerent times of the month. So I gave up all the charting and tracking and just went with it and low and behold the following month we conceived: expecting our second little bundle in 5 weeks! Try not too obsess about it- easier said than done I know!!- but you've done it before, so it can happen again and it will. Good luck x

Hugs to you keeki xx
My 11 months of TTC were the hardest of my life! In that time 6 friends got pregnant ~ 4 of us all used to hang out together on the weekends, and those girls still do, but I'm just not included anymore even though I finally managed to get pregnant sad
It's so hard watching people around you who say it's so easy and trying to be happy for them, while they gloat about how happy they are - it's like a knife through the heart! One of the girls had a bad relationship with her partner at the time and has now split from him, and their 4 month old is stuck in the middle of it. I felt like, how is it fair for her to have a baby and not me?
Don't feel bad about it - almost every person who it TTC feels this way!

Just try to hang in there for a couple of months. It can take a normal, healthy couple up to 12 months to fall pregnant and stressing about it doesn't help (although that's easier said than done) You're doing all the right things with charting cycles and usng OPK's so it shouldn't take you too much longer. smile

Fingers crossed for you xx