I hope this is in the right section...I feel like I cant talk to my DP about it, I am now 39 weeks pregnant, and not feeling comfortable about bringing a baby into this house. About a month ago my Mother in law and 16yo brother in law came to visit for 5 days...On the first day MIL casually mentions that BIL wants to come and live with us, as she lives about an hour out of any decent town and we live fairly close to lots more work opportunities etc. DP and I had a few long talks about it and I told him that I really dont want him to move in with us. And if he really had to not until at least the end of march to give me a chance to settle in with a new baby before i try to deal with a 16yo, i talked to mil about it aswell and she said she understood. We ended up having to drive to the town an hour or so from where they live (9hrs away from our place)the end of that week for my pops funeral, and while we were there she started a massive fight with both dp and bil and kicked bil out and told him never to come back (also had alot of nasty words to say about me... i didnt hear any of it but dp said it was all bullshit, she was just trying to rev him up) So bil came back with us and has been here since. I feel completely umcomfortable around him, to the point I go and 'lie down' or hide out in the bedroom, or go to visit my mum from when he gets home until he goes to bed. He is messy, sneaky and lies. He is constantly being caught out with his lies and just starts arguing and tries to deny it.
I feel like I cant talk to dp, and even suggest kicking him out because my brother lives with us (has for years, we asked him to move in to help out with money and him and dp get along really well) and I am a big family person, my family is around constantly, i see my mum and sister at least twice a week and dad every fortnight.
I am so worried about how I am going to deal with it, with BIL and a new baby....I dont want to bring a baby into this house when it doesnt feel like a home anymore...I seem to be crying and stressing about it constantly...I just dont know what to do anymore. Im really scared this baby is going to come and i wont be any closer to dealing with it. I wish I could just turn off that uncomfortable feeling and get over it!
I hope it makes sense...thankyou if you read it, and any advice would be greatly appretiated!