Hello im 38 weeks be 39 weeks on Saturday. grin. I have been having trouble sleeping with the thought on my mind that my older children won't love this baby because she has a different daddy. Lame i know but i can't help it.They have been involved since day one knowing about "mummy is pregnant" but daddy is not the dad..bla bla bla..the twist is my ex-partner and i broke up two years ago and the children wanted to live with there Nan and pa so they are best mover ever they are loved...My previous partner and i we are happy, relationship is booming and he reassures me that things are going to be fine..I have told my children that they are having a sister they look happy about it and they say they can't wait..but i keep thinking that it'll change.. Has anyone out there that has had a child/ren in different relationships? How do i get over this fear?
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- Tinamg-854
- New Zealand
- Total posts: 4
- Laura1980
- TAS, Australia
- Total posts: 8
Hi.
I was going through the same thing. My partmer and I have been together for two and a half years and we are 14 weeks pregnant.
I have two children from my first relationship and my partner has 1 daughter.
My son is 11 and told me that I was not allowed to have a baby unless it was with his dad. sad
When i finally told him I was pregnant he told me he didn't want the baby to have my partners last name.
Over the last few weeks he has got used to the idea and loves coming shopping with me to pick out baby clothes and bits and pieces.
I would say give your children time. All kids love babies and I am sure that once your little one is born they will forget all about the different dad thing.
Good luck. grin
I was going through the same thing. My partmer and I have been together for two and a half years and we are 14 weeks pregnant.
I have two children from my first relationship and my partner has 1 daughter.
My son is 11 and told me that I was not allowed to have a baby unless it was with his dad. sad
When i finally told him I was pregnant he told me he didn't want the baby to have my partners last name.
Over the last few weeks he has got used to the idea and loves coming shopping with me to pick out baby clothes and bits and pieces.
I would say give your children time. All kids love babies and I am sure that once your little one is born they will forget all about the different dad thing.
Good luck. grin
- Maconnors_85
- QLD, Australia
- Total posts: 63
I'm currently going through the same thing. i have 3 DS9 DD7 DD5 to my ex husband and my now DF28 has 1 DD3 to his previous relationship. we are currently 29 weeks with another DD. My 3 are extremely happy and they also want to change there name to my DF's, there dad is absent and a joke of a father. The problem we are experiencing is my DF's ex is filling his DD head with very nasty things that are only going to make adjusting hard for her when the baby gets here. I just tell my kids that just because this baby has a different daddy it doesn't change how much she is going to love them and look up to them, and that i love them all the same. My kids have an aunty that isn't blood related but we call her aunty and i've always told them that family is what we make it and thats not always blood. good luck..