needing some1 to talk to

hey guys

this may seem a little desperate unsure but im so lonely.ive just moved to launceston tas and im 21 yrs old and 34 weeks pregnant with my first.i dont have friends here and i am going crazy spending so much time alone at home.the only person i can talk to here is my partner and most of us know guys dont like talking all that much. blink

im feeling a bit lonely and its harder to make friends now that im expecting.if there are any young mums and expecting mummys around launceston i would love to have chat grin

Hello smile

I am not in Tas, but I'm a young mum too and I know how isolating it can be. I'm 25 now, not quite so young anymore lol but was 20 when I had my first bub, and I had family and my DH to talk to but no friends really. DH had some close friends (still does) two guys he went to school with, they have always been very supportive of us and I'm so glad he has them. I have never had friends like that, and I really felt that lacking when I was young and married and pregnant. It was easy to kind of withdraw and become a bit of a hermit. I've only started coming out of my shell since my kids have started school, I've been getting to know some other mums and finally starting to feel comfortable socially again. I've made myself sound like a real recluse lol I'm not really, I guess I've just kept to myself a lot in the last few years and decided not to need anybody; I'm realising now how lonely I've actually been. Adding to the whole situation was DS2's health problems, he's been sick a lot and it's been quite hard at times to deal with. I guess I've found it easier to deal with privately, keeping it in the family, rather than telling friends about it and having that awkward situation where they don't know what to say and I have to maintain a strong front for their benefit. In my own company and with my DH, where I'm comfortable, I can do what I need to - talk if I want to, cry if I want to, or just say nothing, and it's always understood. I think I became a little bit scared of not being understood.

Anyway, I digress... the whole point to the reply was, I'm sorry you're feeling lonely and I really know what's like. I reckon you'd be surprised how many people know that feeling. Also my family moved around a lot when I was growing up and I had to start over so many times, new friendships and new schools and so forth. I think it gets harder, starting over, the older you get - I found it so much harder in my teens than I did as a kid. I really hope you find some people to connect with soon smile

hey guys

this may seem a little desperate unsure but im so lonely.ive just moved to launceston tas and im 21 yrs old and 34 weeks pregnant with my first.i dont have friends here and i am going crazy spending so much time alone at home.the only person i can talk to here is my partner and most of us know guys dont like talking all that much. blink

im feeling a bit lonely and its harder to make friends now that im expecting.if there are any young mums and expecting mummys around launceston i would love to have chat grin

Hi! I'm down near Hobart. I'm in a country town (have been here for 3 years now) with an 18 month old. There's nothing to do and nowhere to go! I go nutty on a regular basis, I've learned to embrace it lol. If you're still lonely in 4ish weeks time we'll be coming up to Launnie for Uni Revue (at the theatre, for work), I'm happy to catch up smile

I'm in Tas but near Hobart. I'm pregnant with my second child and am going insane being stuck at home because doctor say I will have baby early. My partner works 10 hours days, has football training two night a week, and plays football all Saturday. I know how you feel. And your right until the baby is here isn't not all that real for men. The best thing I can say to you is join a mother group when baby is born, they are great. Meanwhile I'm happy to talk to you about anything, even if its just online.

Hey I just wanted to let you know since replying to you the other day I found there is a facebook page called Tassie Mums which seems to have a lot of mums and mums to be in your position. You might be able to find a few women to talk to on there.

thanks guys

i have been to all my antenatal classes and everyone seemed quite nice but didnt really want to be making friends which i can understand with having more important things to worry about ( a new buby coming into the world) and already having supportive friends and family

xo

hey there smile
im a tassie mum but im devonport way
i have a 5 year old and a 3 year old and one on the way smile
im 24 and a full time mum lol