I'm the worst mum :(

Hi girls,
I'm sorry but i really need to get this out.

Ds was diagnosed with asthma a few months back, our docter prescribed Singulair for it. Over the last few month DS's attitude has change, he had/has become agressive, he would just smack me in the face for no reason and yell at me to go away or just scream.
I wasn't sure where he was getting this from because we don't speek to him that way or to each other (well in front of DS anyways lol).
We just put it down to the terrible twos.

He was become moody and was waking during the night screaming.
He has been at hospital twice since being on this medication with 2 upper respiratory infection's and i blamed daycare. He nose has not stopped running either and has had a cough.
I was just clueless on where my lovely caring well mannered little man went.
And i was till last night that i looked at the side affects of Singulair. All of a sudden it all made sense.

So i took him to the doctor this morning and he told me to take him off it.
I'm feeling pretty crappy that i let him go on like this for the last few months and i'm feeling even more stupid for not looking into side affects before giving him this.
I'm feeling like the world worst mum for not doing my research, how stupid am i? My eyes are so blood shot and puffy because everytime i look at DS i start crying.
Sorry for going on i just had to get this out, thanks for reading.

OH hun GBH you gave it to him because you wanted to do the best for him and just because it can have side effects doesn't mean every child while have them, try not to be too hard on your self xxx

Ooh how were u to know that would happen! U didnt, u had the best intentions and your sons best interests at heart. The dr probably should have told you the possible side effects..
I hope your son cheers up soon smile

3littlemen wrote:
OH hun GBH you gave it to him because you wanted to do the best for him and just because it can have side effects doesn't mean every child while have them, try not to be too hard on your self xxx

Thanks hun smile
I'm ok now i think i was just having a bad upsetting moment. At least he is off the now and i'm hoping he is back to normal soon xx

3 pease in a pod.. wrote:
Ooh how were u to know that would happen! U didnt, u had the best intentions and your sons best interests at heart. The dr probably should have told you the possible side effects..
I hope your son cheers up soon smile

sad I wish my doctor did tell me about the side affects but he didn't, i guess i'm just glad that it's all sorted out now. But from now on ill do my research before giving him something, i'm just feeling rather stupid that i didn't look into this earlier. Ohhh well.. Thank you smile xx

Maru08 wrote:
Agreed. Don't feel bad. I'm sure if the dr thought it would be a problem, he/she would not have prescribed the medication in the first place. Different things react differently or not all with people, so there was no way of knowing your little man would react like this. (Some of it could be age also, as DS went through a yelling, hitting stage too).

You have done the right thing by getting advice & he is off that medication now & hopefully have been given something different for him. Hope you see a difference in his behaviour.

You have nothing to feel awful about, you really don't. Go & give him a cuddle, keep your chin up & know that you are being a great mum to him. smile

I think some of it may be a stage he is going through but he is worse then ever before and he will smack me or hit me then a second later he say's "sorry mummy" sad
He is now only using his puffer every 4 hours at least untill this cold weather is gone. And then we can cut back his usage.
I just want my happy fella back. I bet the poor kid is thinking i'm a weirdo because i can't stop giving him cuddles lol. Thanks so much for your reply smile xx

Big hugs hun. Don't feel bad you did nothing wrong and had your Ds best interests at heart. I hope he gets better soon. XX

Don't beat yourself up, you weren't to know! The side effects and so forth are something that the doctor really should have explained to you, I think that was remiss on the doctor's part. Especially given that these are fairly common side effects of singulair and they are difficult for parents to deal with. It's not your fault at all! Did the doctor go through other preventer options with you at all? There are a lot of other options, if he needs a preventer, and it might be worth getting a second opinion if you're not getting the information you need.

My DS2 is asthmatic, he's been on preventers since he was 12 months old. He was diagnosed and is still managed by a paediatrician, who has always been very reluctant to try singulair precisely because of the side effects. He was also under a respiratory specialist at one stage and she said the same thing. It's been really hard for us to get his asthma under control, he's 4 years old now and on a high dose of Seretide (a combined inhaler). Still having weekly attacks but hoping the increased preventer dose will kick in soon. I know how hard it is to deal with, and scary - I still don't feel completely confident. I know how upsetting it is when you think you're doing the right thing and something goes wrong sad

I hope you find a happy solution soon, and get your happy boy back quickly smile

It's happened to me too. DD1 was given some meds and the side affects were covered up by the pharmacy sticker. One day i pulled the sticker off out of curiosity and there it was. I was pretty upset with myself. Now im just angry that my doctor didnt tell me what might happen, and im angry the pharmarcy had a whole bottle to put their stupid sticker on and they chose there.

I reckon this proves just how wonderful a mother you are smile Guilt...argh, will it never end?

hey keeki
hope you are feeling better. As the others have said, don't beat yourself up, it wasnt like you were knowingly putting your son at risk. Big hugs and hope he is back to his old self soon.

Don't beat yourself up big hugs!