Hi all,
Just wondering if anyone else is having a terrible time with thir two year old.
I have a nearly 1yrold DD and a just turned 2yrold DD.
She is driving us batty, she takes her frustration out on DD 2-4 times a day (hits, snatching toys of her or shoving her down), when we tell her to stop and put her in her room, she just doesnt care, (tried sitting her in a corner, but she just wont stay - and unlike super nanny I dont have 2 hours to keep putting her back in the naughty corner).
She fights getting dressed, thinks it funny if i growl at her or sometimes (rarely) kicks me.
She wont eat anything but fruit and iceypoles.
Im so sick of it all, its exhausting!!! what can I do!
Save my sanity.

Hi Katie,

I feel your pain, my DS just turned 2 and my DD is 1 in a month, some days I feel like I am constantly telling my DS off and separating them. My DS will sit on a chair but moves it so he can see his sister, so it doesn't really work.

I am currently taking their toys off them, if they can't play nicely with them, I take them and bring them back later. My DD does cause it sometime by taking things off of my DS. I have no idea what else to do, I've tried taking them out to parks, trying different activities painting, drawing and anything that will use up energy... But some days it just doesn't work..

I'm sorry I couldn't help but I know how your feeling... I hope it doesn't last long for you

Cheers Tash

My oldest when he turn 2 maded me want to pull my hair out. Now that he 3 he better.

I have no advice but keep calm it does get better.

My DS is technically 2 but he turns 3 in 2 months. I also have a 3 month old.

DS has started to become a 'smart ass', he plays with his toys for about and hour or two, by the end of it he has pulled out all of his toys and they're left lying all over the floor. when i ask him to pick them up, he says "ok, you help" and refuses to do anything unless i am 'pretending' to clean up too.

also the other day he was naughty not listening to DH, so DH put him in his room and closed the door, DS started screaming (he's never been away from us, so was scared) so i opened the door and said 'i'll leave the door open but you have to stay in your room and read a book, his reply was 'fine then', and grabbed a book and jumped on his bed and read it.

i'll just say we've just moved into a new house so i didnt want him to become scared of his new room so i opened the door and there is only a table/chairs/books and a bed in his room so he couldnt play with toys.

You are definately not alone

My DD is turning two next month. She has gone from being a beautiful placid child, to a whingy one. It's like she's been abducted by an alien.

No advise really, accept I'm lead to believe it's a normal developmental stage and they grow out of it. I'm wondering if I can hide under a rock until then smile

This is the time when your toddler is just beginning to see how far he or she can push and if you're not going to have a real battle later on in life, YOU have to make sure that what you want comes before what they are screaming and yelling for.

They need such guidelines, there's comfort in knowing Mum is boss, it's not "imposing your will on a helpless infant" it's really letting them know you can be relied on to keep your word. If you say 'NO' it has to mean no, not "no, until you scream so loud I can't stand it and say yes" roll eyes

Continue to put a toddler in a cot in its room (or some other safe place) and when its calm - and you are too - tell it that it will stay there until it stops doing whatever it was doing smile Each time it does the wrong thing, take it back to the cot. This works better than a naughty chair from which the child can move too easily and, more importantly, observe how frazzled Mum is and push even further.
PS: I hate referring to children as "it" but I also dislike writing "he or she" each time!!