14 month old son having tantrums to the point of making himself choke and throw up.

We have just moved out on our own and I'm finding it really difficult. My son is having really bad tantrums. I will try to ignore him and only comfort him if he gets really upset to the point of throwing up! But even though I ignore him and tell him that he needs to calm down and he can have a cuddle, he still gets to that point of choking and throwing up. I don't know what to do. i need help. I know he isn't in any pain becuase sometimes i will sit down cuddling him and he will be smiling and playing! so i feel like i can't win. I try talking to him but he won't calm down....
Everyone says to ignore them until they calm down but what do you do when they don't calm down and they get to the point of being distraught, choking or vomiting?!? I can't just let my baby make himself sick...

Try playing with one of his toys and make out you are having lots of fun before he gets really bad.

Just sit on the floor near him so he can see all the fun you are having. I did this with my daughter and she ended up wanting to play with me and forgot about her tantrums.

Very similar to pp - at that age I would ignore but play with one of DD's noisy toys. I would often try to do it a little way away though or just around the corner. Just give all your attention to the toy/activity until they have calmed down a bit. Distraction really helps! Otherwise, looking for something to point out out the window can work too. Hope it helps!
Only time I would jump in for comfort would be when she hurt herself - a couple of times she chucked herself backward on the floor and bumped her head. No lasting damage though, and she only did that a couple of times before figuring out it was a bad idea! Then she would gradually lie herself down on the floor instead! grin

Agree with above. I think it's a developmental stage. My DS was really cranky for a couple of weeks and I've noticed he's just started doing a few new things (he's clapping, pointing at things and saying new words, and actually pointing to different parts of the body e.g. when we ask him where his ear is - he points to his ear and says "eah" wub )
It must be really frustrating for them, because they're learning so much at this stage and absorbing so much information, but can't communicate properly yet.
here's some info on temper tantrums - http://raisingchildren.net.au/articles/temper_tantrums.html/context/594

Thankyou to everyone for their advice. I will try playing toys with him and distracting him before it gets worse. Just feels like i can't do anything right at the moment.

Agree with above. I think it's a developmental stage. My DS was really cranky for a couple of weeks and I've noticed he's just started doing a few new things (he's clapping, pointing at things and saying new words, and actually pointing to different parts of the body e.g. when we ask him where his ear is - he points to his ear and says "eah" wub )
It must be really frustrating for them, because they're learning so much at this stage and absorbing so much information, but can't communicate properly yet.
here's some info on temper tantrums - http://raisingchildren.net.au/articles/temper_tantrums.html/context/594

Thankyou for the link. I will have a look at it now smile

Agree with above. I think it's a developmental stage. My DS was really cranky for a couple of weeks and I've noticed he's just started doing a few new things (he's clapping, pointing at things and saying new words, and actually pointing to different parts of the body e.g. when we ask him where his ear is - he points to his ear and says "eah" wub )
It must be really frustrating for them, because they're learning so much at this stage and absorbing so much information, but can't communicate properly yet.
here's some info on temper tantrums - http://raisingchildren.net.au/articles/temper_tantrums.html/context/594

Thankyou so much for that link. I guess not having done any research into how to handle tantrums, I havn't had any right direction. The video's are great. Thankyou!

Thankyou so much for that link. I guess not having done any research into how to handle tantrums, I havn't had any right direction. The video's are great. Thankyou!

You're welcome smile it's a great website with heaps of resources. I find it more useful than all the parenting books I've bough/been given.

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