So I know this is an old thread, but I found it in an internet search on children biting at daycare. Because on the flipside of this argument…I am “that” mum whose son bites at daycare.
He doesn’t do it when in a large group of children for mothers group meetings, and he doesn’t do it to his cousin who is the same age and regularly plays with. He spends 3 days of the week with me and doesn’t do it, then is looked after 2 days while I’m at work by his grandparents, and he doesn’t do it then either. He doesn’t do it at home of an evening to either myself or his father, he doesn’t bite toys, he doesn’t bite the couch, he doesn’t bite animals and he doesn’t bite himself.
Yet I get a call almost weekly from daycare (He is there 2 days a week) saying that he has bitten another child. Some times its completely unprovoked, and sometimes it’s an argument over a toy. Sometimes they are quick enough to catch him, and other days they aren’t.
Todays call was him trying to bite 5 times unprovoked, 3 times he made contact and almost drew blood. He was excluded from the babies room and spent the rest of the day by himself.
He has also been bitten himself, which I couldn’t get upset about as they let me know straight away and he has done it to other children so I have no right to be upset.
So spare a thought for me, who is at her wits end on how to stop this and fears every week that they may exclude him from daycare altogether too. My beautiful son who is happy, plays all day and is sociable and kind seems to turn into this monster child when I drop him off at daycare. And now he can’t even play with other children while he is there either which can’t be much fun for him. It upsets me a great deal to think that he is doing this, because apart from the damage that he does to other children, im getting slapped with the stigma of being “that” mum, when I cant find one single reason for him doing this. Im wracked with guilt, and can find no way of fixing this when he doesn’t do it at home, so we cant teach him not to do it!!