20 month toilet worrys

hi ive got to girls. my first was toilet trained by 18 months including at night and ive got a 20 months old who refusses to even sit on her potty. she tells me wen she need to wee or poo but as soon as i say common lets go to the potty and take her hand she screams the house down. i know every kid is diffrent but she was prem. could it have something to do with that? she is a very grown up 20 month old. how can i help her? also i fefuse do use pull upa as there pretty much a nappie and they sent my oldest down hill wen i used them.. please help xx

wow congrats on an 18 month old being toilet trained, esp at night!!
My DD is 20 months and she is very grown up for her age (emotionally) and a lot of people comment on how small she is even though she is in the 75th percentile! Anyway, I will be starting her tomorrow as she always tells me she is about to do a wee or poo.
I also have a 6 year old son, with whom I started to toilet train him at around 2 years and it didn't work. I found at around 3 years old he decided he was ready and that was that.
Some kids no matter whether they come from the same family or not are ever the same. If she really doesn't want to go potty, making her upset isn't going to help her. She will tell you when she is ready. In the mean time, when she is at home I would suggest putting knickers on her with a potty within reach and putting nappies on her when you're going out and at night time. It can be very frustrating (not to mention expensive) but she will let you know when she is ready.

I hope that makes sense. Good luck. Let us know how it goes!!

Hi. My 22month DD was the same - would tell me when she had done a wee or poo, but mention the toilet and the screaming would begin. As it was getting warmer she started just wearing undies around the house and having a few accidents (just wees luckily and we have polished floors so easy to clean..). This happened for a few days, and still screaming when the toilet was mentioned. For about a week we stopped even talking about the toilet and then one day it just clicked - off she went to the toilet all on her own did a wee! People had told me that one day it just clicks in their head, but I didn't believe that but now I do!! Poo's took a bit longer and she would only do them at sleep time in her nappy, but all good with that now too. She had a star chart and when she got ten stickers for going to the toilet she got a present that was sitting wrapped up on top of the kitchen cupboard (but she worked out that she could do 5 little wees every hour and get the present quickly..). It will happen, good luck smile

hi iam a child care worker and i hate those pull ups they are nappies People HELLO. here are a few tricks we use at work firstly is she desplaying signs of wanting to tt if not you might be better off waiting til she is ready otherwise if she is showing possitive signs star small let her flush the toilet lift the seat and wash her hands after that grab some of ur food dye and put a few drops of a colour in the toilet or potty with water let her see what happens when she wee's in it (it changes colour) and children love seeing what colour the water will be once they are done. another trick is to sing some songs while she's on the potty singing row row row ur boat works a charm od if ur happy and u know it. counting hope this helps good luck

i have a 5 yr old girl who was toilet trained in about a month at 3, i also have a 2 1/2 yr old girl that i cant even bribe with lollies to try to go to the toilet, and with no.3 on the way i dont know what to do with her. So no how you feel but going to wait till spring and stick nickers on her and hopefully she wont like the feeling.