my son is turning 3y in a month or so. We have been actively TT for the past couple of months.
At age 18 months he started ( unprompted) taking himself to the toilet, taking off nappy, doing a pee, pulling nappies on, flushing then trying to wash hands.. the whole lot. I was so stoked!!! However this only lasted a month or so ( change in daycare centre/ my job now 30hr/wk at this time probably the problem). Since then we have tried on and off, (with reasonable success with #1 but not #2s) but backed off at times when he refused to sit on the loo/ potty. I figured this way he would TT in his own time when ready....
Anyway for the last couple months he will only go to the toilet for pee/ poo when he feels like it... we have tried sticker rewards, allowing him to choose wearing undies vs pull ups, and other incentives ( staying at his friends house overnight if goes to toilet all the time).
We have even tried saying that the #2s want to have a poo party in the toliet and see their friends ! wink this actually worked for 2 days or so then novelty wore off. Hes not scared of the toilet and even tries to get in and flush the loo at any opportunity. Daycare say he using toilet 1/2 the time for #1 otherwise goes in pull ups/ undies. at home on good day he does 4-5 wees and 1-2 poos in toilet. other days not.
the problem is that at times he is NOT having accidents, atleast 2-3x a week he is waiting until i go out of the room, (usually) taking undies off, doing the business, putting undies back on and coming in giggling about where the #2s have ended up ( lounge floor is his favourite), telling me that "poos should go in toilet" but he wanted then to be where he put them. Sometimes he gets angry when i clean up the mess.
we have tried not to make too much of fuss ( thinking this would make it worse), just saying yuck and reminding him that if he wants to wear undies he has to use the toilet.
I''m now 25 weeks preg with baby #2 and still got m/s, and gagging over each mess i have to clean up. I wouldnt mind if were accidental messes!!!
Would REALLY appreciate any ideas/ things that have worked for others in this situation!!!