Need help with 8 month old

We lost our third baby to sids at 5 weeks old and have since had another one but due to our circumstances I have co sleep with him and breastfeed but want to put him in his cot for the whole night and bottle feed...I need a break I am exhausted he doesn't sleep through the night and I want to go to bottle feeding...We both suffer from separation anxiety...
I need help please...

were is the cot? i would either keep it in your room or i know it might not help your sleep to start with but have you tried having the cot in another room but you sleep on a mattress in there to start, when my little one is sick i dont rock him to sleep but he will settle if i lye beside the cot and have my hand inside if he wants it, so you could do a similar thing and slowly move further away. another idea is maybe try this with shorter day sleeps before the night so its not as tiring for you. with the bottle maybe get someone else to do the first couple if you can because they can smell your milk and will get upset. try lots of different shaped bottles and teats as well i tried a few before i found one he really liked.i wouldnt do bottle and cot at the same time though the anxiety will prob be too much for both of you, just maybe try the bottles first so your baby starts to get use to not just you or being breast feed and maybe then going into the cot might not be as big of a change. i hope some of this helps, good luck

oh i forgot my little one wouldnt take bottle and breast so i decided to go all bottle over a month, with all expressed milk, its a lot of work but sometimes they wont do both and if you want bottle its something to think about, it also means if they arent sleeping at night, if you have some help you can get a bit of extra sleep during the day if someone else can feed them.

We lost our third baby to sids at 5 weeks old and have since had another one but due to our circumstances I have co sleep with him and breastfeed but want to put him in his cot for the whole night and bottle feed...I need a break I am exhausted he doesn't sleep through the night and I want to go to bottle feeding...We both suffer from separation anxiety...
I need help please...

Im sorry for your loss *hugs*
Can your partner take over one of the night feeds with an expressed bottle so you can get more sleep?
How is he with solids?
We night weaned at 18 months, with a gentle method, and cosleep still (though miss nearly 2 is starting in her own room now I have bellyfruit on the way) but I think if you want him close theres nothing wrong with room sharing.