19 month old obsessed with Dad

I'm just wondering if anyone is in a similar situation or has any ideas about what I can do. My DS is normally pretty well behaved. He takes direction well, goes down for naps/ bedtime with minimal fuss. That is unless his Dad is at home! Then he turns into a completely uncooperative, moody and whiny child. It is getting so frustrating. He makes a huge deal about going to bed when Dad is home. Wants Dad to constantly pick him up or give him attention. He cries if Dad goes out of the room. What's going on with him?? Is it just a phase?!? I also feel a little hurt LOL as he enjoys playing games/ cooking etc with me when we are home together but when Dad is there it's like I don't exist!

Hi, I feel your pain.
My boys are 3 & 5 and are the same....and have been for years!
For my boys, dads a bit of a softy and always fun to be around so I become 'nobody' when he's around. As they've gotten older I don't mind as much because they just want to follow dad around and do what he does and it's nice to watch (and have some time off) but I do remember feeling sad when they were younger sad

Yep I've bn through that 5 times. Mine love me when I'm the milk lady but as soon as they r on the bottle it's see ya mum smile My 11mth old is probably the worst at the moment. If he doesn't pick her up as soon as he walks in the door she screams & rolls around the floor chucking a tantrum. My 7yr old tries to play in the middle & he thinks that when dad gets home he'll overrule me. 1 good thing is when u bring the next baby home he won't feel too jealous cos he'll have dad & u can happily spoil bub. wink

I'm just wondering if anyone is in a similar situation or has any ideas about what I can do. My DS is normally pretty well behaved. He takes direction well, goes down for naps/ bedtime with minimal fuss. That is unless his Dad is at home! Then he turns into a completely uncooperative, moody and whiny child. It is getting so frustrating. He makes a huge deal about going to bed when Dad is home. Wants Dad to constantly pick him up or give him attention. He cries if Dad goes out of the room. What's going on with him?? Is it just a phase?!? I also feel a little hurt LOL as he enjoys playing games/ cooking etc with me when we are home together but when Dad is there it's like I don't exist!

I've experienced this with my eldest and put it down to the fact that she was with me all the time and Dad was at work all day, so when he did come home it was all about Daddy - and fair enough. Maybe he's missing Dad and needs more 1:1 time with him, could account for him playing up (possibly to get attention) when Dad's home and also acting like you dont exist. Dont take it personally, its just that they see you all the time and so Dad is a novelty and they want him and only him when he's home smile

I have had this happen with DS1 but this was due to DS1 having to have two major operations and several weeks in hospital during which DH stayed with him (I couldn't as I was pregnant at the time). I love it though as I get to watch them both play together and I get some time off. DS2 is a mummas boy so a bit of a breather is a good thing. It was an absolute blessing when our second bub arrived. I'm currently pregnant with bub #3 so i'm trying to turn DS2 into a daddys boy but without much effect!

I'm so glad that I'm not the only one getting ditched for Dad. My 19 month old couldn't care less about me when his Dad is around. At first I was bit hurt as I am the one playing, singing, dancing all day and taking care of his every need, however I now realise that I get a break when his Dad is home and it's fantastic that they have such a close relationship.

Definetly not the only one! Both my boys are obsessed with Daddy and he works from home! They always knock on his door, follow him around, sit next to him and of course play. They are much easier to look after when Daddy is out, especially bed time. Although, I wouldn;t change it for anything. I'm glad they love their Dad and it gives me a break sometimes. I think they need it to. Dads are great at play fighting and doing boy stuff.

my 11mth old DS loves his dad and also cries when his daddy disappears, but my husband works shift work (at KFC) so sometimes hes home during the day or home during the night. but when ever dad is home Tristan follows dad around, dad can stand him in small doses but usually palms DS off to me and all DS wants is his dad when dads home so its a bit awkward for me sad

we solved this by as soon as daddy gets home, they go to the park/read a book etc, and its my time, till dinner grin