Good luck with your own business.
My DH was a SAHD from when DS was 4 months old. He went back to work 3 days a week when DS was 18 months old.
I am a control freak too, and a neat freak. DH is very good (would say neat freak too but not to my standard), but boys just don't see stuff.
Originally we had a cleaner to do the big jobs every 2 weeks, but don't any longer - if you can afford this, it helps.
We sat down and made a list (which DH put into a spreadsheet - once a business manager, always a business manager) and divvied up the jobs. We also revisited this frequently in the early days to make sure it was fair.
I also did a lot of 'work' in my head around letting go of stuff that used to stress me - at home and at work pre baby. I accept that NO ONE will do things to my standard, but as long as they do them and do them well enough (and this may take some feedback and learning for your DH) then that is OK.
My expectations were: DS looked after until I came home, then I was happy/wanted to take over; dinner done (I washed up - that is what we consider fair); house is tidy or close enough when I get home from work (beds made is a deal breaker for me).
I am also happy to show DH how to do something a few times but after that I do let him know he is a big boy who can do it (confidence is a big thing with boys - big or little). I do still get random calls at work - where is the rice? what wash do I put these items on? OMG DS has had a number 2 accident (OK happened once only) what do I do? etc.
It can work but you need to keep the lines of communication open, ensure you provide lots of positive feedback in an appropriate way (they know if you are being condescending) and also do some work around what is really important to you and just try and let the other stuff go.
Hope it works out for you.