HELP!!!

Im not sure how to deal with this:

My dd dad and i went our seperate ways when i was just 3 months pregnant and he didn't meet her till she was 6 months old and has seen her 3 times since then our deal is he helps out with clothes and that when he can (always in and out of jobs cause he looks after his dad when he gets sick)thats fine but everytime i ask him for something its always yeah yeah sure but we never get it i dont ask him for much but he has an older daughter and son to another person and he sees them all the time as they live in the same town but i feel my dd is missing out on stuff cause she isn't there with him and the other childrens mum makes dad spend money on them

im not one to demand and be nasty but our dd birthday is in 3 days and we still have got nothing from him for her. she is turning 2 and is always saying daddy got this and daddy got that cause she doesn't understand. im sick of her missing out all the time i dont know how to deal with hm anymore cause i know if i take away his privledges its dd that misses out. im at my witts end

PLEASE HELP!!!!

I personally would stop asking for anything and expect nothing and then YOU won't be disappointed - I think you'll find that its annoying more because you are comparing your DD with his other children.
The less you expect from him, the more grateful you will be when he DOES actually do/buy things for her then it could either go 2 ways - he'll do more or he'll do nothing then you'll really know what type of father he is - and don't worry - she will know too.

I would just work that little bit harder to give her everything she needs and if that means no relationship with him don't stress because he's obviously not really worth it as a dad anyway and do you really want your daughter to grow up with a less than appropriate role model EVEN if he is her FATHER.
I brought my MUM a mug for fathers day one year that said, anyone can be a father but it takes a lot to be a Dad.

It will be harder for you to do this but in cutting this stressor in your life, you can focus on you and your future relationships in which you may find a man far more LOVING (providing/giving of time money support etc!) to be the father figure in your precious daughter's life.

i understand were ur coming from its just
1. we will bnecer be a family he needs to grow up too much
2. i simply cant understand why he treats our child different yet can step up and be a dad to a child thats not his
im just lucky the dd has more then she ever needs its just a shame her dad treats her differently to her brother and sister

I would stop asking for things too. He is the one missing out on this little girls life. Your an amazingly strong person, you have lasted this long with nothing from him.

If you feel like your daughter needs a male role model, do you have a brother, your dad or a male family friend help out?? that way she is getting the love and help from people that truely do care about her and want to be part of her life. I dont want your DD to think of this person as her father, i just thought she may benefit from a male person in her life.

There are many two parent households where the kids dont get any attention from there fathers, so dont feel bad that that this man isnt in your daughters life. You will be able to raise her to be a strong independant person, who will be able to do amazing things with her life. She really doesnt need him in her life if he is going to be committed to her for the rest of her life.

I would stop asking for things too. He is the one missing out on this little girls life. Your an amazingly strong person, you have lasted this long with nothing from him.

If you feel like your daughter needs a male role model, do you have a brother, your dad or a male family friend help out?? that way she is getting the love and help from people that truely do care about her and want to be part of her life. I dont want your DD to think of this person as her father, i just thought she may benefit from a male person in her life.

There are many two parent households where the kids dont get any attention from there fathers, so dont feel bad that that this man isnt in your daughters life. You will be able to raise her to be a strong independant person, who will be able to do amazing things with her life. She really doesnt need him in her life if he is going to be committed to her for the rest of her life.

I agree with all of these posts but especially this one! My daughters father never saw me when i was pregnant, saw her at 2wks old and had now dissapeared (i dont know where he is and he doesnt pay child support). It makes my blood boil when a child doesnt recieve the little things like a hug or to be told that they are loved by their fathers but thats when us good mums step up to the plate and play both roles.

If you have any males that have the same views as you and will be a role model take it! My younger brother was a bit shocked and disappointed when i fell pregnant but since iv had my daughter who is 9 and a half months he is trying to helpful anyway possible and even got a job so he can help me finacially with anything his niece needs since her dads not around!

But it sounds like your doing a great job so just continue doing the great job but by yourself, dont contact him, make him contact you and that way it might make him wake up a bit! Good luck smile