hey ds is very clingy towards me and it upsets df because ds doesn't really like doing thing with him how can i help fix this??
df baths ds most nights some nights ds wont stay in the bath for long but with me he will stay in there for half an hour,
if i give ds to df so i can go toilet ds will winge the hole time til i come back,
if df is trying to play with him and i'm trying to clean the kitchen he would rather come in and stand at my feet and cry,
if he hurts himself and df picks him up he stays upset but if i get him he gets ver it quite fast
df tries to get him to like him more but ds doesn't really go for it
does any oe know what to do? they do play together sometimes but it would be nice if that could happen more iykwim
anyway thanks ds is 13months
Its very normal behaviour and your DF shouldnt take it personally, its hard but as you are your DS primary carer and the one he is with the most it is natural that he clings to you.
My kids have been mummy mummy mummy till age around 2 1/2 and then they've ditched me for Dad - it must be hard for him being constantly told "mummy do it" but as I'm a SAHM and with them all the time and being young toddlers, that's just the way it is. It upset me when my first DD dumped me for Dad BUT I have to concede I had it good for a long time and the thing is your little one doesnt know anything of hurting anyones feelings - they just want what they want and as they grow and develop that changes. Just in the last 2 weeks my youngest is now all about Daddy, everything is "Daddy do it". Used to be she'd call out in the morning and if he went to her she'd yell at him "no! I want mummy"... now she's calling out "Daddy Daddy".
Your DFs time will come, its normal that they cling to mum in the first couple of years. If your DF was the parent with your son most of the time it might be the other way round. I've also found that at around 2 ish they enjoy Dad more because he's away at work so when he's home he is all they want.
I dont think you can try and force it or take it personally, by all means encourage more time for your son with your DF but dont worry about it when they ask for one or the other.