What would be an appropriate arrangement

I have recently separated from my childrens dad. I have no idea what is an appropriate arrangement for him to see his dad.

I guess i just want whatever will be the least disruptive to my son and for everyone to be happy with the agreement. In the last week its pretty much been one day on one day off, which just seems crazy and confusing for him. The only reason i have been going along with it is because his dad has been having a lot of trouble coming to terms with the separation and i thought it would help to cheer them both up, but now im thinking its just making it harder on everyone and the sooner we work something more solid out the sooner my DS will get into a routine and know what to expect week to week...

Is anyone else in this boat? What do you or have you done with this age?

I dont think he will be happy with a whole week in between seeing them or especially fortnight...i just dont know whats a normal type of arangement

Hey, sorry your going through this. I have just been through the same thing.
It was fairly easy for me as my ex works full time and goes to work fairly early.
He has the kids every second weekend and 2 nights a week he has them for dinner then drops them back to me.
You need to sit down with your ex and discuss whats best for you both and your child.
Good luck, these things are never easy. But once you have that routine in place it will all fall into place.

I have recently separated from my childrens dad. I have no idea what is an appropriate arrangement for him to see his dad.

I guess i just want whatever will be the least disruptive to my son and for everyone to be happy with the agreement. In the last week its pretty much been one day on one day off, which just seems crazy and confusing for him. The only reason i have been going along with it is because his dad has been having a lot of trouble coming to terms with the separation and i thought it would help to cheer them both up, but now im thinking its just making it harder on everyone and the sooner we work something more solid out the sooner my DS will get into a routine and know what to expect week to week...

Is anyone else in this boat? What do you or have you done with this age?

I dont think he will be happy with a whole week in between seeing them or especially fortnight...i just dont know whats a normal type of arangement

When my ex and I first broke up we had a fortnight plan that meant the kids were moving between houses every few days. I thought it worked ok because we could both continue working part time and the kids weren't in care but it didn't suit my oldest daughter. So now I have them every week day and he has them every second weekend fri - sunday and the following week just the friday night. If he can he takes them for dinner 1 night during the week, baths them and brings them home at bed time in their pj's.
It took over a year to find a way that worked for everyone. I would keep it very consistent and in my experience 1 house majority of the tie has worked best. My kids are very settled now and they can ring their dad whenevr they want if they miss him in between times.