MIL rings today and says to me:

"How are you keeping? Not stacking on the weight I hope? You don't want to have an 11 pound baby this time!"


DD was 9 pound 11- she was 16 days past her due date when I was induced. I gained 15 kilos throughout that pregnancy.

Am I right to be slightly offended???????????

Yep, but mil's are like that :/

"Feel free to please mind your business. Your actually offending me"

Skip I would LOVE to say something like that to her but the trouble is that her and DH's relationship is strained at best and if I offend her- she may cut off contact and I don't want to be responsible for that.

DH just says I need to ignore everything she says- usually I'm pretty good at it but am just at that stage where you feel fat but not pregnant and have been feeling a little down about it anyway- she was just the icing on the cake.

Skip I would LOVE to say something like that to her but the trouble is that her and DH's relationship is strained at best and if I offend her- she may cut off contact and I don't want to be responsible for that.

Oh dear i hate situations like this. Where they are allowed to offend you because your too worried about causing friction. Just not fair.
Hope she keeps her comments to her self a bit more in the future.

Definitely inappropriate!
But I do kind of see that she was trying to make a joke??
Maybe just ignore her, like your DH says. smile

Hey sorry your mil like that


Have to ask if your mil over weight ?
If so next time she comments l








Tell her you take notice of her comments ask her join GYM or something with you ?

Make out your concerned for her heath also.


Surely that will remind her to keep comments to her self .
Or


I understand that you mentioned family solution has tension but be honest with her over lunch or something how her comments make you feel.tell her thanks for your concern mil name but in fine way I I'm thanks all of
More for your son to cuddle lol.





Good luck

Hey sorry your mil like that


Have to ask if your mil over weight ?
If so next time she comments l








Tell her you take notice of her comments ask her join GYM or something with you ?

Make out your concerned for her heath also.


Surely that will remind her to keep comments to her self .
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I understand that you mentioned family solution has tension but be honest with her over lunch or something how her comments make you feel.tell her thanks for your concern mil name but in fine way I I'm thanks all of
More for your son to cuddle just the he likes it.


These comments are only suggestions for your mil.


I don't mean any harm or want to be seen as mean.



I have difficult mil also.








Good luck

man. people need to learn not to make weight related comments to pregnant ladies. I probabally would have just said the truth - 'actually MIL, dd was 9lb because she was overdue, not because I gained too much weight' Sometimes people need boundaries drawn FOR them if they say such disrespectful things.

Typical MIL comment!

Hey sorry your mil like that


Have to ask if your mil over weight ?

No, I am not overweight- just normal with a healthy BMI! Even if I was overweight I don't think a comment like hers is appropriate....

man. people need to learn not to make weight related comments to pregnant ladies. I probabally would have just said the truth - 'actually MIL, dd was 9lb because she was overdue, not because I gained too much weight' Sometimes people need boundaries drawn FOR them if they say such disrespectful things.

Typical MIL comment!

I did say "I think the fact she was 2 weeks overdue probably had more to do with her size than what I ate". Didn't stop me feeling *** though.....

No, I am not overweight- just normal with a healthy BMI! Even if I was overweight I don't think a comment like hers is appropriate....

"mum of 4 lovely blessings" asked if your MIL was overweight, not you - you must have read it wrong smile

Typical mother in laws! I gained about 16kg with DD, she was 8p9o - she was also 11 days over!

My cousin who weighs 130kg just gave birth to a 6p90!

I can just imagine the tone she used, grrr!

I used to do the smile and nod and imagine myself smacking her over the head lol

hi,

DS was 14 days overdue weighed 8 pound 13 - gained 10kg
DD was on her due date weighed 9 pound 4 - gained 15kg

Anyway, my midwife said some people are just meant to have big babies, i'm on the lighter side of the BMI so was expecting a smaller baby.

I know you asked if your right to feel offended by her comment and yes you should, but i wanted to say, when i felt like i was a whale, i went out and brought some pretty new lingerie (sp) and although it made me feel bad by buying underware a size bigger then i normally get, when i modeled them for DH it made me feel pretty again, maybe try that to get your confidence back up and of course make you feel special again smile

"mum of 4 lovely blessings" asked if your MIL was overweight, not you - you must have read it wrong smile

Thanks

MIL rings today and says to me:

"How are you keeping? Not stacking on the weight I hope? You don't want to have an 11 pound baby this time!"


DD was 9 pound 11- she was 16 days past her due date when I was induced. I gained 15 kilos throughout that pregnancy.

Am I right to be slightly offended???????????

I would have been upset!!

There is nothing worse than being reminded of your weight, especially when you are in that awful between stage when you just feel fat rather than having a definate preggy belly.

Or maybe that wss just me tongue

Thanks

Oops sorry! She was overweight for years and years but in the last year has lost quite a bit of weight. Still don't quite understand why that would relevant to her making comments about me though?

TBH I was most upset about the fact that she implied that it was my fault DD was a big baby!! As if it was what I ate that caused her to be big rather than her being so overdue!

Thanks for the comments wink

I know how you feel. My Mil always has to comment something about me. She lives 4 hours away but she will still have a bitch to my dh on the fone. She saw me when our ds was 2.5 months and told me i had put on weight when in actual fact i was still the same size that i was wen i had our ds. Oh and when my ds was a month old she come to visit and asked when i was going back to work i was really annoyed at that since Ds was only a month old.