This week, completely different story, with him suffering migraines brought on by his depression, decreased in his communication, lying about what he is up to on the computer etc. l told him Monday night that l was not going to put me and the kids through his crap again, and that this is his one and only warning. Be pro-active or else! It was hard to say to someone you love, but there is no way l want my kids growing up in a family where the dad is depressed and unable to help out and the parents are giving each other the silent treatment.
My MIL says that my views are a bit unfair as you can't help depression. Fair enough, but there are so many things people can do to be proactive, such as medication (which he is on) and psychologist/counselling (doing both) but a huge one for me is the exercise and eating right. Coming from an exercise background, l have talked to him til l'm blue in the face about the positive aspect of exercise and eating well, as has his GP, psychologist and counsellor, all to no avail. So now, on top of everything else, he has put on weight and is unattractive in a few different ways.
If anyone has suffered depression, am l being unfair on him? Or if your partner has suffered depression, what methods did you use to cope? l'm running out of options fast.
Thanks for reading this far!