I was fine during my pregnancy with DD. After the birth I had a tear which was stitched and didn't seem to heal very well - it took 8 months until I had "painfree" sex!! Obviously I wasn't too turned on by the idea of sex at the time as I was scared of it hurting. But even since it has stopped hurting to have sex, I just don't ever "want" it... I never feel the urge. And my hubby works away so I guess with him being away I get used to not having it, but when he's home I don't want it either. (And I used to be total opposite! Couldn't wait to get in the sack when he was home!) I want to though, I just find it really hard to get in the mood. Sometimes once we get going it is great and I get into it, other times I can't get into it at all and just go through the motions.
It is really taking a toll on our marriage now. Obviously men being men, they need sex to feel loved. And I know hubby is feeling very unloved. And he knows I'm not really into it half the time. I do love him, and want to WANT sex again, I have no idea how to make that happen though sad I have even been praying for my mojo back!!
I know low libido can be common after having a baby but after 2 years I would of thought it would of returned by now.... Now I am pregnant again and still not feeling any mojo.
I don't think it helps much either that I feel very un-sexy myself. I'm not happy with my body at all and feel very unattractive.
Anyone been through this and how long did it take to return to normal.. and how? Any advice appreciated.