Ive Done It

Soooo... Its been a while since ive been on here.

And while I have half hour to myself I thought Id jump on and fill you all in on what has been happening.

For those that have read my previous few posts, my DP and I suffered and early miscarrige which was a very traumatic for us both, though DP took it to the next level and became quiet horrible toward me and
-left for 3 days without any contact with me at all
-He missed our DS birthday altogether and I was left making excuses for him,
-He brought a girl home one night "to drink" and was shocked to find me asleep in our bed. (which was my fault apparently)left with her and didnt show up until 9am the next day swearing nothing happened that he fell asleep on her couch

I went and saw a councillor who (along with friend) made me realise both DS and I deserved better so I booked DS and I flights for an extended holiday, had a fantastci time with My Bestie and did my best to ignore DP the whole time. One night we went late night shopping and had dinner I left my phone at home and returned to 73 text messages from DP... Not 7 not 17 but 73 all in a matter of 5 hours they ranged from "where are you", "where the F%$k are you", "I hate you" "Your a S%^t", "Go to hell" "I bet you have some other C^&k up you" and then the odd "im sorry I love you" and then the few saying he was enjoying have sex with another women, then messages denying that!!! All of which is showed my BF so she didnt think I was exagerating.

We have now returned home I have packed mine and DS things and moved in with my parents, even though they are not that supportive and never have been. I think they could see the best thing was to return home have some money and then look for a small place JUST for DS and I elsewhere.

Im scared, im sad, happy, relived DP is no longer my problem... I have such mixed emotions. I have some really great supportive friends who have kept me believeing I do deserve better and have helped me move. I am very lucky I have them.

DP has since blocked me on FB which is fine I dont need to see what he is upto, but has apparently been boasting on there about a new "lady friend" but I honetsly dont care. I feel for the poor girl and the rollercoaster ride she about to go on.

So now to look for work save some money and settle DS...

No offence but your ex-dp sounds like an a*se and you and your ds will be better off without him. Stay strong xx

Firstly sorry for the loss of your unborn child.


You are a strong woman to leave him and have the courage to look down a new path! You are someone to be admired by your son.

All the best for your future!! xx

well done for how you handled it. In time he will learn that he needs to be an adult. Having suffered a chemical pregnancy i too know the damage they can do to a relationship as mine almost went to the wall too. But your dp sounds like he does need to grow up and you walking away may well be good for him.. In the end his boasting about other gals is only gonna end up with his mature friends telling him he is immature and needs to grow up. Be proud of your self for handlign it maturely by walking away instead of buying into it.

It's amazing what you have done. You put you and your DS first and you will be happier for it.

Hope you find a great job and make a happy life for the both of you.

Big big hugs Hun. You have done such a brave thing and dealt with it in the best possible way. You are better off without him. Good luck xx

Good for you, you should be proud of yourself for being a strong role model, you don't nee any of this, stand strong chick you will do well.

Well done. Hard as it is right now, it will get easier. Yay for you to take the hardest step of all & remove yourself & your little one from a toxic situation.

Onwards, upwards & all the best for a bright future for you both. Stay positive. smile xx

Thank you all so much...

Im sure there are some really hard days to come but I do know that this is for the best.

smile

Wow, well done!! You are doing the right thing, for yourself and DS! You should be proud, stay strong xx

That's great you left your DP seriously sounds like a bum. Hope you have a wonderful new life and won't have to deal with him again. Good on you more people in your situation should do what you did. Good luck

well done mate.... he sounds like a total d!ck.... you and ds will be better off....let us know how it all goes!