Argumentative DH

With my DH having a history of depression and no longer working, things can get a bit tense on the home front. Today, every time l make a comment or suggestion about something he has / hasn't done, he always turns it back onto me. And this is not something that only happens occasionally. l've told him in the past that if l make comment to him, please don't always turn it back and blame me.

l have been trying so hard to make sure l approach him in the right manner but it doesn't help so why bother?!

For example, l said to him that he seems a bit argumentative today and l'm not sure why. He fires back that it's because of me that he is like that and basically shuts me out of continuing the conversation.

Am l over reacting? l've stormed off and closed the door nice and firm to ensure he knows l'm annoyed. And there's no chance he'll apologise either.

Sorry I don't know your background and not saying this is the case, but is he feeling like he is being picked on a little bit? Cause it sounds like he is being defensive. Possibly he is over sensitive as well as he feels a bit useless being out of work?
Maybe try and let the little stuff go, like not pull him up on everything and see how things go.

My DH says the exact same thing at times. frustrating.

Unfortunately i am no help to you as i dont have the patience to put up with that garbage, so i end up not talking to him until he gets over himself. Its a little bit harder in your situation having to deal with his depression as well mellow , so its not that simple i guess.

I reallly just wanted you to know that you are not alone