What would you do??

I'm with Skip, there is no possible way I would even consider the baby-sitter at the resort option, that just seems a bit silly IMO you have no idea who would be looking after your baby!

Is there any way you can leave both kids home with your inlaws? Perhaps leave some expressed breast milk so they can feed your baby? It's only for a couple of days surely they would be fine smile

Failing that you may have to skip the wedding sad

There is no way I would ever leave my kids with someone I didn't know. Kids come first so the babysitter I didn't know wouldn't even be an option for me. I'd skip the wedding if you can't find another solution. Hope something works out for you!

I'd love to be child free for the wedding, my main concern if that I can express but not that well (sometimes have trouble getting any- especially if Im uptight!!!) So was worried about compromising my supply.... We would be away from mid morning Friday till late evening Sunday. Our baby will be 6 months by then- does anyone have any idea how much she'd be feeding by that stage??? I cant for the life of me remember what DD1 was doing at 6 months blink

I dont know much about breast feeding sorry, I bottle fed smile

Perhaps you could start expressing now and freeze it so that you will have a good supply of it by the time of the wedding? And while you're away you could express a few times a day to keep your supply up?

At 6 months my son who is bottle fed was feeding 3-4hrly during the day with one feed during the night but he is a big hungry baby!

I really hope you can sort something out so you can attend the wedding!

I agree with Skippy and could never ever leave my children in the care of strangers.
I hope your able to figure something out so you get to share your friends special day. smile

Sorry to tell you this, but I feel that your friend is a bit selfish... Definitely, your kids are your priority... I would say :
1. either take your in laws with you
Or
2. bottlefeed the baby and leave both kids with in laws
Or
3. skip the wedding ...

Any other option is risky and not good for your kids.

Good Luck !!!

Provided i wasnt part of the wedding party... i wouldnt go.

I missed the wedding of my best friend because of a similar situation. She's a mummy now and has admitted to feeling like crap how she spoke to me about it. It was pretty tense between us at the time though. She couldnt get her head around me putting my baby before her blink

At 6 months my dd2 was still feeding like crazy, there is no way i personally could have expressed enough to leave for her for a couple of days. I cant remember how much dd1 was feeding at 6 months.

Good luck in your decision.

I dont know much about breast feeding sorry, I bottle fed smile

Perhaps you could start expressing now and freeze it so that you will have a good supply of it by the time of the wedding? And while you're away you could express a few times a day to keep your supply up?

At 6 months my son who is bottle fed was feeding 3-4hrly during the day with one feed during the night but he is a big hungry baby!

I really hope you can sort something out so you can attend the wedding!

This is also what I would do.
Don't look at it as a wedding, look at it as a weekend away for you and hubby! Make it a special treat - you deserve it!

If you do decide not to go, it might smooth things over slightly if you organise a huge bunch of flowers to be sent to her on the morning of the wedding day, some chocolates, etc. Just something to let her know you're thinking about her on the day.

Just for a different idea.....if you took the baby to the resort and to the ceremony, would your husband skip the reception to babysit so you can still go to the reception? Might be better then both missing out.

i agree with Schnaz - if the bride is your close friend, then maybe hubby skip the reception and look after bubs back at your room and you can go feed as necessary. You could always flag that option with the bride, ask if you can bring bub to reception but if she is getting restless/noisy hubby can take her back to your room.

Here is my opnion lol.

There is no way i would leave my BF baby for 3 days, that is such a long time to be away from her. When ds was BFing i would only leave him for a few hours here and there with my mum and dad.

If you can't afford to take your inlaws then just don't go. There is no way my dh would want to spend a heap of money to go to a wedding and then not be able to go to the reception, he would be better off to have just stayed home.

If i were you i would call her and just say if we can't take our dd then we will not be able to come. Tell her you have noone to mind your baby and you can't afford for your inlaws to come.

This is such a difficult situation your friend put you in. Your bubby is still young so you can't be expected to part from her for too long plus breastfeeding too. It'd be a shame to miss the wedding though so maybe as PP said you could compromise with your friend about your bubby coming and your hubby taking her back to the room if she gets grizzly. And maybe you could breastfeed and maybe have a bit of expressed milk too. I know it's not ideal but I don't think the babysitter idea is a good one..