I am currently 33 weeks pregnant with my 5th child, a little girl after 4 boys (well it better be born a girl or i'm in trouble lol). I have never had a baby shower as with my 1st I lost alot of contact with friends as I was the first to have a baby (I was 20) and I was pregnant with my 2nd when my first was 8 weeks old. With my 3rd I felt it would be weird to have a baby shower as I still had everything from the first 2 and needed nothing and felt like if I had one People would feel like they had to bring a present. With my 4th I felt the same, plus we had just moved and I didnt know many people (I had started suffering PND after my 3rd and went into my own bubble for a few years and lost alot of friends as they weren't helping my situation, alot of them were the cause, if that makes sense).
BUT this time around my good friend of 20 years who I had just recontacted with convinced me to have a party for this one. I said if it was a boy, I wouldnt have one as we still had everything, clothes, linen, cot, cradle, pram etc. I agreed and said if it was a girl, we'd have one to celebrate me wanting a girl for 22 years and finally having our dreams answered.
We didnt call it a baby shower, we had a PINK PARTY. On the invitations we put I'd prefer no presents, but as you know some people dont listen so we also added a note that if they had to bring something a voucher would be appriciated for things we find we might need later eg breast pump or sterilizer, nappies, formula ect. We had pink food and everything girly. It was great to catch up with everyone, some who I hadnt seen in a few months. As I have had alot of problems with this pregnancy it was a chance to reconnect with the baby and have just a fun afternoon laughing and joking with friends and family. It turned out to be a fantastic day spent with 20 of my closest friends and family.
Whatever you decide, it will be the best for you.
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