invite deilima

so we have started planning our wedding and DF has a friend that he used to great friends with. but in the past year they have drifted apart as his friend started going out with a chick who we don't really get along with and hes become quite selfish and self obsessed and uses every1 for money.

his friend has been to town a number of times but has never come to visit and has not even come to meet DS who is now 4months old. (we went out of town to meet their new Ds wen he was a few days old)
he didn't even invite DF to the christening or his stag do. but we were invited to their wedding but cannot go due to work commitments.

DF said he wouldnt invite them to our wedding and i dont really want them to come but i feel like it would completely wreck whats left of their friendship if they weren't invited. I'm not sure that DF even considers him a friend anymore.

we are only inviting family and close friends to our wedding to keep costs down as we want to use saving and our parents contribution as a deposit on a house. but we have a few of the same friends that would be invited.

any advise would be appreciated...

I'm not sure that DF even considers him a friend anymore.

I think that's the main question your DF has to ask himself.

To give you a personal perspective, we invited way too many people to our wedding including people we no longer see or talk to. We regret doing this but we also think that they were in our lives at that point in time - they were our friends at that moment in time and we wanted to invite them.

Is this man really your friend? If he doesn't come to visit, does he consider you to be his friends? From what you said, I would be leaning towards "no". But then again, if your DF really wants to invite him, there's not much you can do.

Sorry, I know I haven't been much help, probably just confused you more. Apologies! blink sad

If DF doesnt consider him a good friend anymore and he isnt bothered about inviting him, i wouldnt.

I didnt invite quite a few friends to my wedding and im still friends with them, so if this guy takes not being invited to your wedding as the straw that breaks the camels back...he is just looking for a reason to call it quits.

I hope that makes sense...not sure if it does. Sorry. laugh

thanks ladies. i could live with his partner coming but i know she would be judging everything we did and comparing it to their wedding.
not that i care wat she thinks.
but i think u are right if DF isnt bothered then its prob a good idea not to invite them.