She has judged me on my parenting with my oldest continuously


Among other things regarding things in my relationship with her son.

She lives on central coast only meet us once when I was 16wks ,pregnant with Casey .

I don't have an issue with her if she says sorry .

But I won't put myself or my son Casey near here if she's going be critical or mean to me.


I don't care that she's caseys grand mother . I respect her as a lady she should do they same



I told my partner I let meet Casey 14months old but putting my foot down first for applopy {in correct spelling sorry}



I feel right to do this respect cost nothing



My partner thinks I should just put up with her .and that I'm the problem/



I t hought 1st perhaps meeting her down town for coffee neutral ground see what happens



My stepmother said go if I feel uncomfortable just leave
Also told me I should encourage Bond Casey & this woman


What do you ladies think ????

You don't have the problem, she has.

She has no rights at all to tell you who to raise your sons at all.

All MIL think they sons aren't right for them. My MIL told me last year that i'm not family & with what happened Xmas eve and since then i don't want to be in their family. I just want it to be hubby & me and our kids.

Stand up for yourself, don't let her hurt you in anyway because take it from someone who hurting it not a nice feeling.

You don't have the problem, she has.

She has no rights at all to tell you who to raise your sons at all.

All MIL think they sons aren't right for them. My MIL told me last year that i'm not family & with what happened Xmas eve and since then i don't want to be in their family. I just want it to be hubby & me and our kids.

Stand up for yourself, don't let her hurt you in anyway because take it from someone who hurting it not a nice feeling.

Thanks I do intend to stand up for myself don't worry.

In saying that I will take Casey to see her this once.

Told my partner I will meet them down town for coffee
If I feel uncomfortable by anything she calls me or puts me down I will leave


This mil never cut cord at birth .

Thanks I do intend to stand up for myself don't worry.

In saying that I will take Casey to see her this once.

Told my partner I will meet them down town for coffee
If I feel uncomfortable by anything she calls me or puts me down I will leave


This mil never cut cord at birth .

My mil hasn't either.
Good Luck with the coffee, hope she bites her tongue and keep her thoughts to herself

You don't have the problem, she has.

She has no rights at all to tell you who to raise your sons at all.

All MIL think they sons aren't right for them. My MIL told me last year that i'm not family & with what happened Xmas eve and since then i don't want to be in their family. I just want it to be hubby & me and our kids.

Stand up for yourself, don't let her hurt you in anyway because take it from someone who hurting it not a nice feeling.

I'm sorry your mil spoke to u like that


Thanks for your encouragement helps me. Made me smile .

I most likely won't get an comment from her such as I'm sorry . But I'm certainly going to tell her I Des ve res one .


Tell her I will never be mil like her .

My mil hasn't either.
Good Luck with the coffee, hope she bites her tongue and keep her thoughts to herself

I will only try but if starts I won't let get better of me .
I will rise above her childish ways of name calling belittling people to make her self look better
I shall just leave . { secretly wishing she could hear what I think bout her .}

You surely have to understand her predicament.. her married son is bringing his other woman to say hi. If that were my son I'd be horrified that he expected me to keep that secret from his wife, not to mention horrified at his secret life of having a whole other family.

You're not actually the daughter in law..... his wife is....

Surely you can see how you are partly responsible for her feelings...

You surely have to understand her predicament.. her married son is bringing his other woman to say hi. If that were my son I'd be horrified that he expected me to keep that secret from his wife, not to mention horrified at his secret life of having a whole other family.

You're not actually the daughter in law..... his wife is....

Surely you can see how you are partly responsible for her feelings...

He seprated from her
. She has another partner also has done for ages.



Thanks

Well that's good that he has decided to live honestly now.

I guess its pretty understandable how you could have gotten off to a bad start with her considering the circumstances. In which case I certainly wouldn't be expecting an apology.

Obviously I don't know the full back story - just reading what I'm reading in Chalys post. I can see why you guys haven't gotten along great, but she is Caseys grandmother and the mother of your partner. MIL's can be tricky mine is lovely but she will still comment on my parenting (because they have been there done that). I just tune out if I don't agree with it. But I would never get in between the bond that a grandmother should have with her grandchild. (unless there is abuse)

I have IL that refuse to apologise and for that my husband decided to cut all ties with them. we still have contact with his grandparents but that is all. I wouldn't expect one now either i think sometimes it really is too late isn't it?

I too don't really know the background story but i do not that a lot of MIL's have problems accepting who their son's fall in love with

I would just say i want an apology and i don't ever want my children to see or hear u belittling me or undermining me or that will be the end of your relationship with me. I want us to be able to have a relationship so there is no awkwardness between your son or your grandchild. Let's be grown up about this.

lol that is just a little of what i would say