You all know what my inlaws have done and the hurt i feel.

Anyway i being thinking about what best for my boys & the next baby we hope to be bless with.
I decided that i don't want my sil & bil in their lives. I taken into account their actions & i don't want my boys to feel like they not loved by their auntie & uncle.

Their auntie & uncle don't talk to them when they around, they don't even give them a hug. This hurts me to the core. I know my boys aren't perfect & i know they a hand full but i love them to the moon and back. Plus i don't want my boys to be face with sil actions. I feel like she not stable you don't know what will set her off like a look or what you say.

MIL has done a totally backflip & has being very nice to me but i still feel guard. I would never stop her from seeing the boys because she loves them & has done nothing to hurt them.

FIL we don't see that much plus he having a few medical issue that worries hubby. And FIL drops what he doing for his son

I've told hubby how i feel & he understands but i think he going along with me but he said he not.

So am i doing the right thing?

My boys are everything to me & i only want people that love them in their lives.

Sorry about posting this.

I think you are doing the right thing. You have the right to choose who your children are around.
Good on you for making this difficult decision and I hope that now all your special family occasions are happy ones smile

Hun you absolutely are doing the right thing. When it comes to having toxic people in your life you have to do what is best for you and your family and as much as it may hurt to do so it sometimes has to be done.
I have cut my Dad out of my life as I didn't want my children to go through the same things he put me and my brothers through. It is very difficult but just remember you are doing this for your family.
Stay strong!

All i can say is about time! get rid of the unhappiness.

Yes you are doing the right thing. You need to put you and your boys first.
I would have done it a long time ago if i were you.

Yes! You are doing the right thing, for not only your boys but yourself and your husband.

I think you deserve a medal for putting up with their sh*t as long as you did, i doubt you'd put up with this treatment from friends so why put up with it from family!

Big Hugs!

We havent spoken to DH's older brother for nearly 6 years (or his dad before he died), he has never met DD1 who is 4 and DD2 who is 4 months and i have told DH that regardless if he ever gets back in touch with him (he says he wont), he will never be welcome near our girls or our house and i will stand by that as he caused alot of trouble and heartache for DH.

So yes i definately think you are doing the right thing. You dont need people like that bringing you down.

I dont know the background as i never really used to come on the forums but, all i can say is do what you think is right for your family.
I had many issues with my sons father, alchoholism, drugs, DUI, and more and it got to the point that i stopped any contact between them from my sons 3rd birthday.
some think that this was going too far, but i knew it was best for my boy and he has grown into a strong, intelligent and respectful young man without the influences of his father to bring him down.
no one needs the influence of people that dont have their best interests at heart.
You and DH will make the right choices. best of luck hun x

Only you and your DH can decide if it's the right thing for you both but honestly you've been posting about troubles with your 'outlaws' consistently, long before i became a member so i think you already know the answer. If they were just friends you would have cut them out of your life long ago.

IMO life's to short to be wasted on those that make you unhappy.

Hubby & i have talk & we totally agree that we don't need them in our lives. We just sad that our kids & their kids will not grow up together.

My sil has said i very over protective over my kids & now she will see how totally i am.

My kids come first, i love them so much & we tell them how proud we are of them.

It just very hard for me because i try and see the good in everyone & now i'm very nervous around people.