Hey guys, sooo im wondering me & my cousin are very close like sisters grew up together im 8 days older then her she had her daughter may 27th 2011 and i had my daughter january 19th 2012 so they are also very close as we are.
Ino its not my bussiness to say but i feel she is very slack on how shes looking after her daughter ( my neice ) she does not have any routine in looking after her child my neice will not sleep in her own cott always with the parents, she hits her parents, dosnt like her nappy changed at all, goes too bed at 10pm literally glued too her mum. My cousin gets very fustarted when she crys so too stop her crying she just BF's her... sometimes my neice dosnt even want a feed and sits there for comfort. everyone has there own way of bringing up there kids but i feel my daughter is an angel compared too that. im very organised, have my routines that my daughter knows without a doubt and she isnt even 1 yet. my neice is 1 at the moment and has been doing this since she new how. she also wakes up 3 times a night also. and my cousin wants another child in a couple more years.
its hard for her too look after 1 at the moment imagine another =S
should i say something or keep too myself quietly?
whats your thoughts on this or no anyone similar?
I don't think you should be giving advice, for a few reasons:
Firstly, there is nothing wrong with co sleeping or comfort breastfeeding, if mother and child are willing to do this. Secondly, some kids don't like having their nappy changed - not a reflection on a persons parenting ability, just some kids don't like it. You should hear my daughter scream like a banshee everytime we do a nappy! As for the routine, bed time etc, some families don't have strict routines and that is ok as long as that is how the family works. With the waking up, it's VERY common for older babies and toddlers to wake through the night multiple times and it's not a refletion of how they are being raised.
The other thing I want to point out is that although in the grand scheme of things the age difference in your kids will not be significant, at this young age there is a HUGE difference between a 6 month old and a 1 year old. Your daughter is at an age that is typically lovely - 6 month olds are interactive, generally pretty carefree and they often do have a predictable routine and sleep well. But by the age of 1 they are moving, learning language and with this new found independence become quite defiant at times. My little girl was an absolute angel at 5/6 months old, now she is not so easily pleased all the time. You have to be very careful in making assumptions about how other people are raising their kids, especially when yours are younger and your family dynamics are different. Remember also that all kids have a different personality and some are just a bit more fiesty than others, meaning they are often horrible and badly behaved toddlers but grow up to be very vibrant, motivated and confident adults. So unless she's breaking down in tears and begging you for advice, I'd leave it be and just try to respect that she has a different child to you and a different way of doing things.