For us they are tired grumpy and had enough of being good so to speak, they are not like it all the time but when we have a bad week I feel like they are in time out all arvo and it's really heartbreaking for me as I have missed them all day and then I feel like all I do is be the grumpy mummy sad
we just reinforce the rules and use time out if needed make sure they get an early night and with DS1 as he's 7 if he comes home like that I send him to his room to have some wind down time without his brothers bugging him he usually reads a book or play quietly for an hour then comes out a lot happier smile
mum of 3 boys aged 10, 11 and 13
She's probably still adjusting to school, she has to hold it together all day and be good... they always save their most "special" behaviour for mum and that's why you cop it and her sisters, she is most comfortable around you and by end of day at school has probably had enough of being told what to do and is tired and irritable so you get the bad behaviour.
The good news is she is being good at school... as she gets used to the routine it will get better at home, it can take a month or two for them to settle in. Being at school all day is tiring, make sure she has wind down time after school and is in bed by 7pm.
I'm not saying put up with her being rude or naughty but maybe acknowledging the big change in her life and that she's tired might help you deal with the behaviour, maybe a cuddle and reassurance and she might behave a little better at home.
I agree. smile Cuddles do wonders in our house...I try and remember that “my child is not giving me a hard time, my child his having a hard time.” Well sometimes they are..but sometimes it helps to try and think about it/see it from their point of view IYKWIM? Not always easy to do though, particularly if you have had a long/bad day.