Would cheating be the deal breaker for you?

I am just curious at to other peoples thoughts on this. If your husband/long term partner cheated on you would that be the end of your marriage/relationship?

For me I'm not sure that it would. It really depends on the circumstances (if it was an affair or a one-off etc) but I can't say I would give up on my relationship if it was a one off.

it would be the end for us. definately a deal breaker.

I'm the same ad you nai. Think it depends in the circumstances. Hard to just throw it all in after one mistake. I would probably try to work through it. But only one chance would be given.

Same as Little Miss...depends on the circumstances but you only get one chance then it's all over Rover.

I could never forgive a partner for being unfaithful, for me there's no excuse wether it was a fling or an affair to me it's the same thing, you were unfaithful, big deal breaker.
As the saying gose "once a cheater alway's a cheater"

Moo2Moo wrote:
I could never forgive a partner for being unfaithful, for me there's no excuse wether it was a fling or an affair to me it's the same thing, you were unfaithful, big deal breaker.
As the saying gose "once a cheater alway's a cheater"

I appreciate your thoughts but I just don't agree with the once a cheater always a cheater. I've cheated before (high school relationships) but would never cheat again. DP has also cheated in the past and he has not done it in our relationship.

Nai&Beau wrote:
I just don't agree with the once a cheater always a cheater. .

same my DH has cheated on most of his exs but he wouldn't cheat on me but no i wouldn't throw it in i dont reckon i dont think theres much that'd make me throw it in

For me it's easy to say I'd end it, no questions asked but I don't know how I'd deal with it "if" it actually happened. I've been cheated on before, not by my husband and it flippen hurts but I got over it. Bear in mind I was like 16 at the time so it's a different kettle of fish.

IMO cheating is just a symptom of a bigger problem within the relationship. So it would definately be a deal breaker for me. No matter if it was a one night stand or an affair over a longer term period.

My last serious relationship fell apart because I met someone else. I didn't do anything with the new guy until I had broken up with my ex but the thought would never had entered my head to pursue something with someone else If I had have been happy in my relationship. Things never actually worked out with the new guy, he turned out to be a bit of a bastard actually lol but I never regretted breaking up with my ex because I knew that if I was looking elsewhere it was definately over.

That would end it for me.

His dad cheated on his mum so many times that i wouldnt be able to forgive him, being as he knows the consequences better than me IYKWIM?

I would forgive harmless flirting (and i think that would be slightly funny because dh cannot flirt to save his life...) Because we all get little crushes and thats human. It's taking that next step-turning harmless flirting into touching: kissing, even holding their hand; intimacy of any sort with another person would kill me.

ETA: Regarding once a cheater always a cheater...i agree per relationship. If your boyfriend cheated on an ex, doesnt mean he will cheat on you...he just wasnt happy with his past relationship IMO so had he stayed with that ex, he probably would have continued to cheat on her.

I just think if your partner isn't enough for you that you would go and find another person to have it off with, why are you in a relationship to begin with. That's what's being single is for to have it of with whoever you want. When your in a relationship you are IN IT.
Ok yes maybe not everyone will cheat again if they've done it before, but im the type of person who would alway's be wondering if my partner was doing it again. I couldn't stand it.

It depends if DH ever slept with someone else it would be a deal breakerand he knows it. Both of us have made mistakes during our time together but we were honest with each other and worked through it.