Would cheating be the deal breaker for you?

I can't imagine either me or my DH ever cheating on the other, but I would like to say it wouldnt' be over. I believe that we made a commitment for life, and if something happens you need to work through it. I know it makes me sound young and naive, and I guess I am, but I firmly believe that before a couple throws in the towel they should try work through their issues with the aim of saving their relationship.

Im not saying this to anyone in particular so please don't take this as a personal attack wink

Im looking forward to growing old with DH beside me smile

titchthetwin wrote:
I believe that when I got married I made a choice for life. I will never marry any one else in my life ever again. Even if my husband were to leave me. So I would have to forgive him and work through it. I can't believe my husband would ever do anything like that unless there was something seriously wrong so I know that it wouldn't be 'Oh i got bored and wandered off'.

Oh, i only just read this but you said it so much better than i did smile

KatieBabie wrote:
Gosh - sorry to hear that Deano!! That is messed up on so many levels.
Good on you for moving on smile heres to bigger and better things!!
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+1. I can't imagine how anyone could walk away from their own child so young and so easily.

It has been very interesting reading the different viewpoints on this tho. smile

no-one can change the past, it just makes me stronger. and even though what she did wasn't necessarily the best thing to do, i cant hate her, she gave me my son

Deano2611 wrote:
no-one can change the past, it just makes me stronger. and even though what she did wasn't necessarily the best thing to do, i cant hate her, she gave me my son

Oh bless Deano! Man, if I was single...

It would be a deal breaker for us if either one cheated. I've been cheated on in the past and tried to forgive but I couldn't trust him so always wanted to know where he was, who he was with etc. it got too much. I turned into a crazy women that I didn't recognise. So far from the laid back person I usually am.
My partners dad cheated on his mum. That lead to a messy divorce where he somehow ended up far better off & eventually married the women he cheated with. Df has only started repairing his relationship with his dad in the last couple of years & it's still not great. So if I did that to him, it would be over. But that will never ever happen.

Deano2611 wrote:
no-one can change the past, it just makes me stronger. and even though what she did wasn't necessarily the best thing to do, i cant hate her, she gave me my son

That's one of the most beautiful things iv ever read on here smile Nawww. smile
And strawberryTimTam, even if u were single (I am) I think none of us would stand a chance anyway lol jks. 1 man VS waaay too man women on here. tongue tongue

It would be a deal breaker of I ever entered another relationship again n they cheated. Been hurt WAY too many times that way and others so there's no way I'd trust again and forgive them after that!
It's definitely personal choice though cos I know a couple who've been together 49 years (almost 50 in 2mths) and worked thru his infidelities of his younger years to come out on top more in love than ever! smile so I think there isn't a right answer to this Question really. X

Thank you for sharing information....
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Yes I would have to leave marriage is a commitment it would be a deal breaker for me.

Our marriage would be over. I've told him that. If even kiss another women we would split up and we would share (half & half) custody of the kids & if he slept with another women that divorce and i get sole custody of the kids, he gets them every 2nd weekend.
He has to know that when you do something has stupid at cheating that you can lose everything that you love.

And this goes for me if i kiss or sleep with another guy. Hubby was the one that set this agreement.

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