the dating game

Ive recently started putting myself back into the dating game. But strangly enough i feel overwhelmed, not to sound completely up myself but i dont think im a bad looking bloke, and i dont know where to start, what to say, how to dress....
*sigh* i just need someone decent for me and my boy.

Tips? Need a womans help.

I don't have any real useful tips for u cos the dating game scares me too much nowadays after bad experiences (I conceived this one thru a donor cos I got sick of waiting for a decent man n relationship without stress lol!)...
Just be urself and honest on all ur views etc - don't like feel u have to dress up or anything.. Just be YOU.. That's the best approach for everything in life I think smile anything I can tell u u probably already know... Like just go with the flow and look but not overly too hard? Like my mum tells me the right person will most likely show their face in ur life when ur bit expecting anything to happen!
Do u get out much? Or is online meet more ur style cos u have ur lil guy most of the time? X
If abyone else has any tips I'd be happy to hear them too tongue I suck at this stuff but trying to help!! X

I don't think you should have to 'try'. Why don't you head out for some fun with mates, if you meet someone on one of those outings then that's great. I'm a big believer that things that are meant to be will happen.

And on another note about the trying thing... Everyone male that I know says they never got any attention when they were single, it was when they got married or in a serious relationship that suddenly girls were approaching them. This is because women always go for the challenge. You can spot the single guy a mile off.... Walk into a bar and what I see is single men and taken men... The single ones lean on the bar with their body turned so they can scope the rest of the room. Every time someone walks in they look up with hopeful eyes to check out the chick. The taken man can be seen back turned to the room having a great laugh with his mates. It's nothing to do with a ring on the finger... It's all to do with the body language.

So go out, forget about women & have a good time - it'll happen!! smile

Hope that helps... Us women are rather particular and will usually brush a man off if he makes the first move.

chalys 'n' J wrote:
I don't think you should have to 'try'. Why don't you head out for some fun with mates, if you meet someone on one of those outings then that's great. I'm a big believer that things that are meant to be will happen.

And on another note about the trying thing... Everyone male that I know says they never got any attention when they were single, it was when they got married or in a serious relationship that suddenly girls were approaching them. This is because women always go for the challenge. You can spot the single guy a mile off.... Walk into a bar and what I see is single men and taken men... The single ones lean on the bar with their body turned so they can scope the rest of the room. Every time someone walks in they look up with hopeful eyes to check out the chick. The taken man can be seen back turned to the room having a great laugh with his mates. It's nothing to do with a ring on the finger... It's all to do with the body language.

So go out, forget about women & have a good time - it'll happen!! smile

Hope that helps... Us women are rather particular and will usually brush a man off if he makes the first move.

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Totally agree with everything chalys just said!
Especially about not trying as I was trying to get at with the whole don't look thing I said smile cos things happen when they're meant to. Personally id be more likely to strike up a convo with a laid back guy having a ball with his mates than worried about 'finding' a woman tongue

I'd have to agree with chalys lol as always wink

Don't try so hard when you go out. Just go out to have fun, have some laughs etc with your mates and enjoy yourself.

Women can spot men trying to pick up from a mile away and it gets very old very fast.

Just be yourself, don't be fake. Have a smile on your face and that alone can make anyone want to know you smile

Tigress'n'Cub wrote:
Matey, be yourself. Don't try to be something you are not. Dress & act as you would normally. The attraction is you, as a person, not the clothes, car you drive etc. Or maybe I am too old to be advising. LOL. Get to know someone as a friend before things go further. Anyone who looks at you for your clothes, car, money is not worth it, in my experience & opinion. And you have a young man to think about. Take things slow & steady. smile

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See we've all said to relax about it, be yourself and let it happen so listen lol tongue

Have you never met up with others happyhead?! I have met a few people off here. I wouldn't give out my address and have them come here or anything but to organise to be at the same playground at the same time with the kids (when there are others around) is it really such an issue?!

Deano, I agree with the others about being yourself etc. I disagree with chalys in that I wouldn't make the first move (too shy) and go talk to a random guy but if someone started to talk to me I would possibly take it further if that makes sense. I haven't been in the dating game for a long while now and I had my dd really young so never really did the clubs etc but happy to talk and offer support even if I can't advise. smile

Supermummy wrote:
Have you never met up with others happyhead?! I have met a few people off here. I wouldn't give out my address and have them come here or anything but to organise to be at the same playground at the same time with the kids (when there are others around) is it really such an issue?!
Deano, I agree with the others about being yourself etc. I disagree with chalys in that I wouldn't make the first move (too shy) and go talk to a random guy but if someone started to talk to me I would possibly take it further if that makes sense. I haven't been in the dating game for a long while now and I had my dd really young so never really did the clubs etc but happy to talk and offer support even if I can't advise. smile

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What's wrong with a public meet?? If it's around public and there isn't that huge risk then I don't see the problem? How else will u meet new ppl? smile
I usually do it without my kids first when n if I get a chance but iv met a lady off another forum for a playdate once n now were good friends! X

Maybe you could try local playgroups?

TBH I wouldn't be meeting up with someone I met online WITH my child the first few times. I'd be wanting to get to know them and make sure they are legit before introducng my child. Sorry but that the mumma bear in me. And no, I don't care if they are male or female.

HappyHead wrote:
Yes I think it is an issue... you know nothing about this person, you said yourself you are looking to meet someone special and suggest a "playdate" with a wink.

Desperate or what and involving your kids, what if this guy is a physco or a paedophile - oh that's ok there'll be other people around.

Good grief.

Actually it wasn't me that posted suggesting a playdate, I know for a fact that deano must not live anywhere near where I am, it was someone else that made the initial suggestion. I just think you response was a little strong and negative.

I have met up with people in public places before so I could meet others with kids as many of my friends don't have children. I would get to know them before I had them over but I don't think there's a problem with a public place. You say that someone I organise online to meet up with at a public park could be a paedophile or a psycho yet what's to say that the same paedophile/psycho doesn't also trawl my local park?! Do you never take your kids to public places "incase" or never talk to anyone new "incase". That would be a very lonely existence without any friends as the way you make friends is by talking to new people!

If I was looking for a date then I would prefer to get to know the person before my kids met them so they didn't get attached, I knew it was serious etc but some don't have that luxury of might just be looking for playmates for the kids etc in which case a playdate (in a public place) would be the perfect way to get to know someone!

Just my view but hey....

Whao didnt mean to start an argument......

Lol deano. No argument, just a friendly debate (from my point of view at any rate). And don't think you started it. Lol. I was going to try bring he topic back to you but I had already given my advice so wasn't sure what more I could add to that. smile hahaha. And thinking too much jut made my head hurt. smile