what do you class as running late?

A friend wanted to stop in for a visit and asked if 9.30am suited me, I said thats great DS3 has a nap at 12, so he's awake in time to do school pickup!
So we got all organised and waited for them, 10am came and no sign of them, they turned up at 10.30, I was a bit annoyed that she didn't ring or txt to say she was running late (if I will be 15mins late I will let people know!)

Also they didn't leave until 1pm which bugged me too I kept saying don't get anything else out DS3 needs to go to bed soon and then at 1pm I had to say out of the room kids Im putting him to bed now and I think your going home anyway!

So am I being silly would this annoy anyone else? DH thinks Im a control freak and like things to be my way?

No i agree, an hour and no phone call or text is really rude! Im with you, i let people know even if its going to be 10 or 15 mins difference as i know not everyone likes to wait around! Also if i knew that someones child was going to sleep i would be out of there as i would hate it if someone did the same to me!
I think its a bit rude to assume its ok to just show up and then stay later without checking!

I'd be annoyed with that whole situation.
To me 15mins is late, 30mins is very late, an hour with no message or call is just rude in my opinion. And then to stay for that long, after making you wait for an hour is a bit wrong too I think.
If I was the person that was late, I'd feel really bad about staying that long, as I know I'd already put my friend out by making her wait for me. Does that make sense?

15-20 minutes imo

im ALWAYS at least 10 minutes early to everything! lol if i start to run late i begin to panic n work myself into a mess..

Thanks girls you have made me feel better smile

I know Im a control freak and I need to be super organised,So I was thinking it was just me!

with us moving next week and everything I need to get done I probably should have said NO to catching up but for some reason I can't say NO to people either lol!!!

Yep that's rude. I am an on time freak and I hate it when people are late without letting me know. I'd be annoyed at the situation too.

Definately rude but I am also a control freak lol

Anything more than 15 minutes is late IMO. I can't even stand being 5 minutes over any time I am supposed to be somewhere lol puts me in a horrible panic :S

Yes that is rude

I agree that is late. I even text my friends if I am 10mins late. i was running 5mins late and my friend got worried so rang DH to see if everything was ok as I am never late.
I had one person not ring and they were 3hrs late!!!! I tried calling her but her phone was off so when she got here I basically told her that the kids could only play for 20mins as we had to go out. Needless to say I dont see her anymore......

I'm not really sure if that would bug me tbh... it depends on the context really.
If I'm at home I don't give too hoots if people are late. If we're meeting in town or something I would expect a text after maybe 15 minutes otherwise I'd just leave lol.

I don't think I'd be upset in your situation, but that because my friends and I tend to be quite relaxed about time when we are going to each others houses. Like with my coffee group in my last town before I moved we just used to say morning or afternoon lol and people just came when they came. With my best friend we set a rough time (ie lunch time) but she just texts me when she is on her way so i know roughly when to expect her.
Because I mean, stuff happens. You get out the door and one kid needs a nappy change. You forget that the car has no petrol. Someone was late waking up for a nap. Your MIL rings and wont stop talking even though you say you are going out. Sometimes you are in a flap and you don't even think to text.
tbh I'm surprised that some of you mums who have posted replies aren't more understanding about this wink

I wouldn't mind if my DS was late getting down for a nap in that situation because he got to have a lovely time playing with his friends and you got to catch up with your friend too. IMO I don't really think it pays to stick to routines so strictly... its way too restrictive.

But hey, thats just me. If you have a problem with what happened today then there is totally nothing wrong with that. smile It would have been good manners for her to text if that is the norm you have in your friendship, and would have been good manners for her to leave at your DS's nap time, again if thats your norm. But maybe she doesn't really know how you feel about these things yet? Have you known her for long?

Dani - The thing is most of my friends don't have kids and I'll be waiting at lunch or wherever for 30 - 45 mins with DS and they'll rock up late because they were shopping or straightening their hair/doing their make-up. So I guess it grinds my gears that 99% of the time I'm on time and I'm the one with the child yet they can't so the same. I hate wasting my time waiting for people.