im not quite the same. im an aussie who married a south african in england. we conceived our son there but had him in SA eastern cape... stutterheim (a very small town...near east london) then we have moved here to aus (melbourne)
I understand how you felt with the going out part in SA. I wouldnt choose to live there if we go back. i would either go back to where my hubby is from or cape town. it can be a very hard choice, but we all make new paths.
we have rellies in centurion/pretoria area. it seems lovely..ish but if you dont have a car then you are isolated. at least now that im here in aus, if i want to go for a walk i can. we lived on the family farm, and if i wanted to go for a walk i had to take the dogs with me... kinda sucky but they enjoyed the walk. we had a few locations around us but i worried as they were always drinking, they seemed unprodictable.. thats whenit becomes scary.
i hope that you are able to get out and about safely and wish you well. if you want to chat feel free to get in contact with me.
either through this or firstname.lastname@example.org
bye for now