Anyone late 30's and TTC?

[Boy-Central]

Thinking of you little Emilie GBH's x x x

Not very good news on this end. Having a few problems at home with Jack and DH. Thinking twice about getting the rod removed now. Breaks my heart to say that but I may not have a choice.

Thinking of you all. Will try and keep in touch.

Kathy x x x

[Franci]

Hi Meg and co,

I am 38 and have conceived for the first time with IVF. We had been trying for about 2 years or more. I am 8 weeks today. So don't give up hope. Before IVF I drove myself nuts with all the saliva microscopes etc... Then eventually realised it was making me more stressed etc so gave them all away and stopped driving myself nuts.
The TWW was really hard and just seemed to go on forever so I sympathise hugely.
From a large harvest of eggs we ended up with only 1 embryo and to our amazement it took! I know how disappointing it is when over and over again you get your period and it just doesn't seem like it will ever happen to YOU.... but it will! Don't give up HOPE! Good luck,
Franci

[Sue + two]

Oh Kathy, that is sad. Are you OK?

Welcome Franci and congratulations on your pregnancy, you and Julie will have a lot in common. Look forward to chatting with you over the coming months.

Sue. X

[mummaof2girls]

Hi Kathy I am so sorry to hear that things aren't going all that well maybe it will sort itself out and you can still have the rod removed thinking of you big hugs.

Welcome Franci hope you have great pregnancy.

Kylie
[Edited on 28/11/2008] [Edited on 28/11/2008]

[Ethan & Callum's Mummy]

Hi Girls,

Welcome to the weekend !

Kathy, don't make any decisions yet. Wait till things settle down. I hope it all works out for you, I really do.

Franci, welcome and congratulations. I'm 37 and eight weeks also. I had DS at 34 (natural conception) and after trying a LONG time this time we turned to IVF. Look fwd to chatting and catching up with you.

Girls, Its all coming back to me now....I think I got up 3 times last night to pee. Oh the memories ! Wouldn't swap it for the world though.

What's everyone doing today? I'm going to get a bit of Xmas shopping done and stock up on supplies for the Xmas break.

Well girls, gotta run...Ethan has just got up.

Enjoy your weekend.

Julie x

[Boy-Central]

Thank you girls for your support. Sorry for the vent yesterday, I had a bit of a breakdown. Weather permitting, DH and I are taking the boys into the City on Monday. They will love catching the train. Lane loves Thomas The Tank Engine at the moment. We can grab some lunch in there and have a good chat. I am really hoping we can stick to our original plan of getting the rod removed on the 9th Dec. We have a lot of work ahead of us with Jack and his behaviour. Thank god there is only 2 weeks left of school. DH finds it hard at times coping with everything which concerns me. I tell you what, I am the rock in this family, hehe. I don't seem to stress as much as what DH does. Some days I think, no way can I bring another baby into this family but then other days everything seems fine. I know I will be able to cope but it worries me that DH won't be able to. Although he has agreed to another baby, he doesn't show any excitement IYKWIM? He did admit to me that he is apprehensive about having another baby. Maybe in time, while in the TTC process (which is always fun) and during the pregancy, he might come around and start enjoying it a little bit more. You know what it is like. The build up to something is always the worst but when you get there everything is ok. On a positive note I have started getting the boys into a routine of a night time. That was one of the things DH wanted me to do so we could start spending quality time together. He misses our time which is totally understandable. When I look at the big picture, the things that we need to change are minor compared to some of the problems couples have. Anyway I have babbled on enough, hehe. Welcome to our thread new ladies. We have a few more now which is great. My name is Kathy and I am 36 years old, 37 in February.

[starwishin]

Hi everyone,

I wrote this big long (not too long!) post that has gotten lost somewhere! Not fair:)

Anyway, I was saying thanks for the excellent welcome. And thanks so much to Julie and Franci for the very encouraging news! I love to hear that, and so glad you are around to pass on your advice. I am so pleased for you both and I am very much looking forward to being a mum. I am currently looking after my four year old god son who is just divine, and last night for the first time ever, he kept accidently calling me 'mummy'. It was so nice.

I also said to kathy that I was really sorry, and to keep positive and I hoped everything sorted itself out. It's amazing how we can adapt to the new events in our life, and it's quite reasonable to feel tentative about these decisions and to worry about them.

I also sent good wishes to little Emilie. I wanted to reassure you by telling you about my two year old niece who had operations on her ears and her adnoids (sp) out a couple of weeks ago. She was sent home early because she was the best patient the doc ever had, and she didn't want to sleep in the "doctor's bed anymore". She also insisted on carrying her own suitcase out of the hosp. My sister thought she would have looked like a bad mummy to others, making her post-op two year old carry her own bag out of the hosp. :)

So glad to be here. I am now on cycle day 2.. af arrived yesterday. According to FF I am due for my next af Christmas day. It would be a fantastic present to get some good news instead.

All the best to you all!

meg xoxxoxo

[Ethan & Callum's Mummy]

Hi Girls,

Kathy, sounds like things have settled down a bit. Hope your feeling much better. Kids can be so trying on us sometimes hey. What are you doing differently at night? Are you setting boundaries for bed time? We have just done something similiar...so far so good. Then again its alot easier with just one. Hope it all goes well. Keep me posted.

Meg, your niece sounds like a little treasure. How cute. Hope she recovered okay.
Good luck TTC this month...be nice to have a BFP at Xmas.

Another quiet day here at our place. The weather is nice today so we were thinking of taking DS over to the bay and go searching for fish off the jetty. He'll stand for ages to spot fish....perhaps he's going to enjoy fishing with daddy when he's bigger????

Enjoy your day what ever you do. Will drop by tomorrow.

Take care,

Julie xxoo

[Sue + two]

Kathy, you will notice such a difference getting the kids in bed early, you really do need that time at night where you can talk etc, otherwise it is just kids all day and all night. You need your adult time. I have both kids in bed by 7.00pm and it is really nice to have that time to ourselves. The best of luck to you.

Meg, thanks very much for the reassuring words. It is kind of sinking in now and I am not freaking out as much as I was the other day. I just have to think about post surgery and how much better she will be.

Julie, it is a gorgeous day today. I am going out to lunch with my two SIL's for my birthday so a kid free afternoon is just what the doctor ordered.

Have a fantastic day everyone.

Sue. X

[Boy-Central]

Thank you girls x x x
Love the new ticker Meg !!
Wow 7pm Sue, you are good. I thought I was doing well with 8.30pm, LOL. I don't go to bed early so I never minded Lane staying up with me. Sometimes he wouldn't go to sleep until 11pm. Isn't that bad? I have set a routine for Jack which he must stick by. First thing in the morning he must make his bed and clean his room. First couple of days were a bit iffy but now he has got the picture, YAY. When he comes home from school he has something to eat and drink then he has to do his homework. If he has been behaving then he gets 1-2 hours freetime before dinner. He is not allowed to have friends over or make any phone calls or use the computer but he can talk to next doors kids or play with his brothers in the backyard. Dinner time he sets the table. He must be showered and ready for bed by 8pm, then in bed by 8.30pm. It seems to be working so fingers crossed. We get the odd grunt and grown but you have to expect that I suppose. Lane & Luke go to bed at 8.30pm as well. First night they cried for half an hour but the other two nights they went straight down, YAY. Gradually I might start bringing the time forward to 8pm. They won't know, hehe. I am feeling more positive about Jack. Mind you it is the weekend, school tomorrow, grrrr. I had a good chat to his basketball manager and she is going to see if her son Michael (assistant coach) and Dylan (coach) can have a chat to him about the importance of behaving at school. Michael is 15 and Dylan is 19 so I am hoping they have a good impact on him. We are slowly getting there, I pray every day that he improves!
We put up the Christmas tree today .. YAY!
Luke knows how to say Santa now and everything is Santa to him. The lights, the tree, the decorations, everything is Santa, LOL. Lane is exactly the same.
Well I better get cracking. The boys are booked in at Portrait Place at 1.45pm to get their photos done.
Have a great weekend girls x x x

[starwishin]

Hi Everyone,

I hope you all had a splendid weekend.

Thanks, Julie. My niece is an absolute darling. She is cheeky and beautiful. Thanks for your BFP wishes for Chrissy. It would be so great. I would also love a spring baby.

Kathy, I agree with Sue! Despite what they try and tell you, kids actually thrive on routine (I work with them and have assisted to raise a few). And the time is so important for your relationship with your partner. My relationship of 5 years fell apart. My partner had twins and I helped raise them, but we had no time together. The kids ruled the roost!
You say you might gradually bring the time forward til 8. I say go for it. There is this great concept in psychology called just noticable difference (JND). If you move the time forward five or so mins each night, they won't even notice. I have used it on my dog too. She preferred to sleep in a spot, and gradually I moved her bed over to another, a little by little. :) It's great! I turn heating down, music down... It's like any power. I have to be careful not to abuse it and use it only for good.

I went to the mind body and soul fest and I couldn't help it. I saw a psychic and asked about a baby. She says yes, but I have to honour the process and not be so goal oriented. I am so goal oriented. So this month I am going to try and enjoy the whole ttc thing, and ritualise it a bit.

Good luck to those getting close to testing, and those getting close to ovulation. I have a great feeling about this thread. I can't wait to see it unfold.

Meg xoxxoxox
[Edited on 30/11/2008]

[flowergirl73]

Hi all,

For those of you who don't know me I'm Karynne, 35 years old TTC number 1. I've just done one round of IVF and got a BFN unfortunately.

Franci congratulations!!! The more positive stories I hear about iVF the more excited I get. I know it will take time but I hope it will happen positively for me too.

I can't believe they deleted our other thread but lets hope this one remains the same as the othe rin terms of support everyone gives each other.

Maria - sorry to hear about your BFN!!! ireally wanted you to ge tthe BFP as i'm sur eyou did too.

hope everyone had a great weekend. I'm off to see IVF specialist this wednesday to look at doing another round asap. hopefully start the pill asap.

Take care all.

Karynne

[Ethan & Callum's Mummy]

Hi Girls,

How was your lunch Sue? Isn't it nice to go out sometimes child free and just the girls.

Kathy, sounds like things are moving very positively at your house. Congratulations. I tend to agree that kids thrive on routine. We give Ethan little tasks like putting the sauce on the table for dinner and helping put his plate and cup out. Even though its small tasks it will help for the bigger ones to come....(like mowing the grass, washing my car)...just kidding.

Karynne, good to hear from you. Any ideas when your next round is going to be. Good luck. Be good to see things happen for you over Christmas.

Well its another Monday girls, the 1st of December and the 1st day of Summer. Can't believe how fast this year has gone. Its been great to share alot of it with you girls though.

Another day at work today so I'd better get my skates on and get some lunch made.

Will drop by later and say hi.

Take care,

Julie xx oo

[Boy-Central]

Pinch punch first of the month .. touch wood no returns !!

Hey Meg that festival sounded like fun. Interesting what the psychic said. Good luck with TTC. Thank you for your advice. What you girls have said makes perfect sense. I put the boys down at 8.20pm last night. They were in play mode though, hehe. They laughed and joked around for about 15mins then they went to sleep. DH is loving all this extra attention, haha!

Good luck with the specialist on Wednesday Karynne. It would be lovely to have a few Christmas babies on here, including myself!

Have your hours reduced now Julie? Hope you have a great day at work.

Hope you had a great time with your friends Sue. Big week this week for you and Emilie. We are taking the boys on the train today into the city. Great weather for it :o)

Kathy x x

[Sue + two]

Hi Kathy, sounds like you are getting your household in a great routine, good on you. Yes, I had a lovely lunch yesterday. Enjoy your day out with the boys.

I am off to the hospital today for Emilies pre-admission appointment so I will find out what time I have to be their tomorrow.

Have a great day everyone and I will pop back in later and read everyone elses posts.

Sue. X

[flowergirl73]

Hi all,

Julie - I'm off to see specialist on Wed, 2 days time, and I'm hoping it will start asap.

Not sure what they do over Xmas period whether they start patients now or whether you have to wait till after xmas break when they got more staff on.

Hopefully not too long a wait.

Karynne

[Boy-Central]

Who was it that went to the Psychic & was told to burn a candle ??

DH & I took the boys into the City today. We had a wonderful time. We walked through the Botanical Gardens, DH took some photos. He is a amateur photographer. We went to the Christian Store and I bought a pink candle. Now I realise our old thread has been deleted and I cannot remember what one of you ladies said you had to do!

Please remind me !!!!

Kathy x x

[starwishin]

Hi Kathy,

I remember reading about it, maybe on the ttc November thread. Place the candle next to a picture of a uterus... That's what I remember. And I think you sit next to it.

Hope that helps!

Meg

[starwishin]

Sue, all the best for you and Emilie tomorrow! Will be thinking of you.

X!

[Sue + two]

Thanks Meg. We have to be at the hospital at 7am and then the surgery should be around 8.30, hopefully. I am feeling OK at the moment but know I will be very anxious and nervous tomorrow but I will keep a happy face on for Emilie of course.

I will be in touch hopefully on Wednesday to let you know how it all went.

Speak soon.

Sue. X