Today it’s everyone’s favourite topic – relationships! The mums on the couch discuss how relationships change after the arrival of a baby – especially when you already have children. We discuss sibling rivalry and jealousy and look at ways of introducing a new baby to the family. All this, and Dr Katrina Warren joins the girls to tell us about introducing a baby to your pets and choosing the right pets for your family.
Episode 4 Changing relationshipsView all videos
Our guests include:
- Dr Cindy Pan;
- Author and mother of 2, Alison Osbourne;
- Celebrity Vet, Dr Katrina Warren;
- Actress and TV presenter, Alyssa-Jane Cook and
- Melissa Bell, actress and mother to 5 children.
- Veterinarian Dr Katrina Warren offers her tips on how you can have pets and kids living happily together.
Watch segments from episode 4 below and access more information and articles about all of the topics from epsiode 4.
Having kids changes you
Our mums discuss their own experiences about how having a baby impacted them. And with older and younger mums on the couch, we hear what it was like for them to become mothers. Is it any different?
Melissa Bell, had her first baby at 24 and felt that her body was able to cope well with a pregnancy and recovered well. With the first and her subsequent 2 pregnancies she has had to have a caesarean and has found that it’s a little harder to cope each time.
Having a child later in life is different according to Alyssa Jane Cook, who is expecting her third child. With an 8 year gap after her second child, she is aware that her pregnancy is different this time around. Although all of the girls agree that childbirth hurts just the same whether you are young or old.
No matter what your age, everything changes once your baby arrives. Alison Osbourne, suggests that some women grieve the loss of their freedom, financial independence, career and that motherhood can take a bit of getting used to and new mums may not get the feeling of instant gratification they thought they would. The girls share their thoughts on how unequal the parenting roles are in today’s modern society and use the example of a father jumping into the shower without a second thought and yet a mother checking with her partner that he would care for the baby for the brief time she was in the shower. Discuss the topic of inequality in parenting now in the Huggies Forum
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Preparing the family for a new baby – sibling rivalry
What happens to your older children when a new baby comes along? Well they get jealous of course. Today our mums discussed sibling rivalry and jealousy and what they did to prepare their older children for a new baby.
Melissa Bell knows all too well just how tricky it can be to introduce a new baby to a family, especially when you’re a step mum. Importantly she recognised that her step children may feel jealous of their new sibling and she took time to talk through their concerns. With 5 kids, she is a great example of a mum with a blended family.
GP, Cindy Pan, recommends that parents be optimistic about bringing another baby into the family and the kids will pick up on this optimism and help make the transition to big brother or sister. A few other tips shared by the mums included the new baby to give the older kids a present after the birth and also to read lots of books about being a big brother or sister.
And Alison Osborne gives us great advice on how couples should prepare themselves for the arrival of a baby because of the strain a baby places on a relationship. She believes that placing your relationship with your partner as your first priority will help to provide you with the support and stability you need to be a great mum. All the girls agree on this statement, “Happy Mum, Happy Family”.
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Pets and kids
Owning a pet is every child’s dream and children can learn so much from loving and caring for their pets. But before jumping in to add a new member to the family, consider Dr Katrina Warren’s advice. Dr Katrina joined us today with a four legged friend to discuss pets and kids. What should we consider before combining pets and kids?
If you already have a pet, it’s important to change the pet’s routine well in advance of bringing the new baby home. This way, your favourite pet doesn’t associate your baby as the reason why they can no longer sleep inside. Katrina suggests making these changes at least a few months earlier.
Of course all parents are concerned about the potential for a pet to become aggressive to their child, but Katrina reminds us that even playful behaviour can injure a child just by knocking them over. She also reminds us that if you do have pets and kids together it’s imprtant to maintain a good worming and flea treatment for your animal to keep both the pet and your baby heallthy.