Support after pregnancy loss.

One in four of us is likely to miscarry which is itself a sobering statistic. But what happens when it is no longer a number and it happens to you? There are no words that describe the grief of losing a pregnancy. It’s different for everyone. Having lost a brother to SIDS and suffered a miscarriage myself, I know a little of the grief, though it is important to understand that every experience and loss is different.

I wanted to write a little today in this month of May which is National Pregnancy Loss Awareness month, about ways you can help support a friend going through this loss. Or maybe you yourself are grieving and may find this useful. These are some beautiful ways to honour the memory of a loved one.

I am privileged to be friends with Carly Dudley the founder of Names in the Sand. Carly’s precious only son Christian was stillborn, and out of her grief she created this site in his honour. Nearly every evening at sunset Carly can be found at the beach writing names of babies who have been taken too soon. These photos are posted on her site and are treasured by the thousands of families round the world as this beautiful tribute to their loved baby.

To request a name to be written in the sand, go here.

The Small Miracles Foundation has a beautiful candle tribute. It was created by this wonderful non-profit charity “which provides telephone and face-to-face grief counselling and support for those dealing with pregnancy and birth issues.” “Light a Candle aims to encourage Australian families facing the loss of a child to talk about their experiences with trained counsellors, and to remember their loved ones in a positive and heart-warming way.” You can request a candle and write a special message as well. The contact details are here.

In addition to Whispered Support and The Grief Effect there are many other wonderful sites and places that offer support to grieving parents and family and friends.
At a time of huge loss and devastation feeling supported is crucial. Family and friends are vital at times like this.
What helped you cope with your loss?
What do you wish others knew?