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My son is almost 21 months and still doesn`t show much interest in self-feeding with a spoon or fork

Hi Leanne,
My son is almost 21 months and still doesn`t show much interest in self-feeding with a spoon or fork.

He can manage finger food perfectly well and if I put food on a spoon, he is very adept at getting it into his mouth - he just won`t try to get it on the spoon himself. If I left him to his own devices, I`m sure he wouldn`t bother eating.

Is there anything I can do, or is it something he will pick up? I`m concerned that he should be self-feeding already.
Many thanks
Natalie

Leann...
Answer: Hi Natalie, In terms of toddler battles, self-feeding is reasonably low on the priority list. You are right, generally it occurs of its own accord, they tend to pick it up when seated at eating times with other children. Often self-feeding takes off at kindy etc. So the main thing is that he is happy to eat lots of healthy varied food, if you can tick that box then you are winning! Fine motor skills develop slowly and each child progresses at their own pace, so keep allowing lots of opportunity to practice and even the finger foods will help with the skills. Don`t forget things like PlayDough and pretend toys all add to the practice. As the add says, `it won`t happen over night, but it will happen`. All the best, Leanne
Answered: 22 Jun 2009