I was wandering if you have any advice about what t do about food throwing?
I was wndering if you have any advice about what t do about food throwing?
I have a 13 month old boy. He likes to feed imself & recently the food throwing has become a lot worse. I know he is oing it for attention.
When he starts throwing food I do not react except tel him calmly that we don`t throw food on the floor & then I end the meal there - even if he has not eaten anyhing - BUT I feel bad that he will get hungry!! (but I know he has to learn.) Today he refused breakfast & then threw his lunch on the floor so he had none. I have just put him to bed & I am hoping he will ea his dinner.
What do you recommend to do? - thanks
Well to be honest as a mum you are doing just what I would opt to do. I guess also look for those small moments where you can heap some praise upon him. Ideally you want to swap the negative attention seeking behaviour for a positive attention seeking behaviour, so eating, drinking, picking up the food and holding onto it etc.
It can be hard work at first but they quickly learn to do things that they are rewarded for. Try just ignoring the food throwing, take thefood away, but try for another opportunity to get some food on his plate and look for the point where you can praise him. You may find it becomes a battle of wills and taking him from the chair removes the opportunity to amend the behaviour.
Still I am no childhood consultant so if you fel things are getting worse, it can really help to buzz an early childhood consultant, they are great. Generally your local directory would have them. Or you can also call Tressilian or Plunket for advice.
Hope that helps, fingers crossed,
22 Feb 2009