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A baby shower. But this time it’s for dad.

A baby shower. But this time it’s for dad.

One of my closest girlfriends Trish is having a baby soon and a few of us are planning a baby shower for her. So far, so good. After all, baby showers are a wonderful way for girls to come together and share their wisdom, and bring thoughtful gifts for mum and the new bub. So planning it was all going along really well. Until the other day, when another girlfriend Kate,who is part of our group putting it together suggested we throw TWO baby showers. One for Trish and then organize one for her husband.

Yes that’s right, a baby shower for dad.

I must admit I took a very deep breath when I heard it. My initial response was along the lines of ‘Are you kidding me? He doesn’t have to gain a million kilos, pee every five minutes, and know the next guaranteed night sleep will be in about oh, say three years or so, and that’s if he’s REALLY lucky.” No I did not say any of those things. But I thought them.

So I replied I would have a look into it and get back to her.

It turns out that it isn’t quite the crazy idea I thought it would be. In fact there is quite an industry devoted to dear old dad and the baby shower. There is a beer and nappy shower predictably involving beer, but also several games of a similar nature to those held at a female shower. Apparently it is also something of a way for him to celebrate a last night on the tiles before the baby arrives. How very sweet.

So I phoned Kate back and suggested that we simply invite Trish’s husband to the baby shower we were organizing. That was he wouldn’t feel left out and I was also pretty sure he would decline our kind offer. And he did. Turns out he’s going to a poker night with some friends that night.

Would you organize a baby shower for the dad to be?

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Avatar TinaBNE

I had a baby shower with my husband there and my friend's partners.. I'm not really so much a girly girl and didn't want it to be all pink and frilly with too many games... so we just had more of a celebration with our friends than anything. It was great and all the guys said they enjoyed it smile

Posted 04 August 2011 - 08:58 PM

Avatar TinaBNE

there* shame.. bad English lol

Posted 04 August 2011 - 08:59 PM

Avatar Former Member

We had a "last night of freedom.....for a while" party for both of us instead of a baby shower. Was fantastic grin

Posted 04 August 2011 - 09:04 PM

Avatar Ahalfdozen

I just did a backyard bbq with mates, DF and mates partners included. Was just good food and soe laughs. No games or anything. Few people gave presents, but wasn't really the idea of it. I had bought everything already. Will be doing the same again with this bub, as it's not a "shower" of sorts, I don't feel bad having another. It's just a party top celebrate our upcoming member of the family.

Posted 04 August 2011 - 09:14 PM

Avatar sassy30985

I am a bit traditional, I had a baby shower for my first bub, GIRLS ONLY, cause thats how its supposed to be, all the girls gooing and gaaing over the teeny weeny clothes etc.
I was a bit annoyed with my girlfriend when she was pregnant, myself and another friend offered to throw her a baby shower, we had it organised, invites and all, but it had to be post poned. she then went and planned the shower on her own, with her partner and all his mates invited. none of the men really cared that it was a baby shower, they just hovered over the BBQ with their beers, but mum-to-be still insisted that we wait for them to be ready before opening gifts or playing the games we organised. it wasnt as fun with the guys there.

Posted 12 August 2011 - 08:10 AM

Avatar chelsnich

I also had a baby shower where my DF came along and he invited his friends.
I thought it was nice to celebrate our pregnancy together with our friends and family. It made it more real for DF. And was lovely to have my dad there to celebrate.
I don't have many female friends so for me, if i had a baby shower, girls only, the only people there would have been my 2 sisters lol

Posted 12 August 2011 - 04:26 PM

Avatar Lollipop21

DH had organised himself a "baby buck's night" about 2 and a half weeks before bub was due. Pretty much just crawling from pub to pub with his brothers and mates. Turns out I was induced 2 days before this baby bucks and had DS the night before! So the baby bucks turned into the "whetting of the head"!

Posted 13 August 2011 - 12:09 AM

Avatar Lady Berg

Hubby and I had a baby shower with all our friends and family there - guys and girls alike. We made it a brunch, had heaps of yummy food, didn't play any 'shower games' but had a bunch of old board games from our childhood for people to play if they wanted to and also had a baby clothes decorating table which was very popular with the guys and girls alike - we got some really fun creations! Overall it was a great way for both of us to celebrate becoming parents and to do it together. smile

Posted 21 September 2011 - 09:49 AM

Avatar FNFIF

I have brothers and am an only girl. My husband has sisters and is an only boy. We had family, friends and kids at our baby shower and it was so much fun. Everyone appreciated being included. We had all the traditional requirements of a 'baby shower' and it was so awesome seeing the different generations getting amongst it all and enjoying the day. It made me glad that our baby would be part of such a wonderful group of people and no one missed out on the celebrations.

Posted 21 March 2012 - 12:51 AM

Avatar Joelinep

My friends had a combined baby shower where the women and their partners came along. All the women went into the lounge room and played the games and talked babys, whilst the men stood outside looking in. They did the blokey things like drinking beer, pats on the back etc. It was great because the father was quite clucky and I thought it was a good way for him to be involved in a blokey kind of way.

I suppose it depends on what the father is like.

I quite liked what our friends did and suggested the idea to my husband. He was happy for the baby shower to be a girly thing. Saying that, he loved going through all the gifts everyone got us after the baby shower. Being our first baby, he was so clucky.

A couple of weeks after our baby girl was born, my husband had a BBQ and beers with all his mates to "wet the babys head". He got some gifts from his friends, but he mostly a time to celebrate with his mates.

Posted 07 April 2013 - 02:05 PM

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