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I had gone to a sleep centre with my eldest daughter and did control crying, but I don`t think I could handle it this time around

My son is nearly 8 months old and has yet to sleep through the night and so have I. He sometimes wakes up every hour and if I`m lucky he might get up every 2-3 hours. As soon as he wakes up he wants to be breast fed. He will eat for a little while and then fall asleep on the breast and if I try to remove it from his mouth, he tries to search for it and put it back in his mouth. Once upon a time I was able to put the dummy in his mouth and he was happy but since I have been trying to get him to drink from a bottle, he no longer wants the dummy.

During the day he will only sleep if I rock him or again offer him the breast and even then he won`t stay asleep unless I hold him. As soon as I try to put him down he stirs and starts to cry and won`t stop until he is pick up again.

He refuses to sleep in his cot and sleeps with me in my bed and has done so for most of his 7 months. I know it is my fault as I found it easier to breast feed him in bed at nights as I was so tired. I also have a five year old and a three year old.

You would think by the time you have a third child things would be easy but I seem to have gone backwards more than forwards. All my children were problem sleepers but this one seems to be the worse. With my eldest daughter I had gone to a sleep centre and did control crying but I don`t think I could handle it this time around - lack of sleep has pushed my nerves to the limit.

He does not want to drink from a bottle and he is not keen to eat solids. Any suggestions that might finally allow me to sleep through the night? Eagerly looking forward to any help you may be able to offer.
Thank you, Vicky

Maree...
Answer: Hi Vicky, He totally relies on you and simply does not know how to sleep without you. If you don`t change this then things won`t change. It`s so hard when you are exhausted but think of how it is for everyone even the other children. I think you need outside support, ask your health nurse what she can do for you, I can give you lots of online support with the It`s Time To Sleep settling program but I think you might need some one on one help. If you are in Melbourne we can offer in house settling. Let me know how you go, you can contact me directly at info@itstimetosleep.com Cheers, Maree
Answered: 01 Mar 2009