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I have tried control crying but she is so much stronger then me at the moment

Hi,
My baby wakes at the same times nearly every night, she is 14 months old and still wakes every two to three hours and wants to be put on the breast, if I refuse she throws herself around and screams the house down, she has been a terrible sleeper since about 6 months of age. I have tried control crying but she is so much stronger then me at the moment, I am tired and fed up.

Maree...
Answer: Hi, Firstly you need to understand why she wakes. Because she doesn`t know how to sleep without you. The comfort of the breast feed is her sleep association. Second, changing a habit is never easy and to get your daughter sleeping independently means she needs to fall aslep on her own so when he wakes on her light sleep she can resettle herself. Imaging you have gone to sleep in your bed and you wake up in the bath you couldn`t go back to sleep without your bed and where you went to sleep. Same with babies that are rocked, cuddled, fed to sleep or transfered once asleep. It is a really heart breaking thing to teach a baby to sleep independently but if done correctly it can sometimes only take a week or so. My son was 12 months and he slept through from the first day of the program after having never slept through the night ever. This is why I help other parents today. She may be strong but you need to be the stronger one. You can get an overview of our settling program from the Your Baby`s Sleep section of the Huggies site or for more detail, and a visual demonstration, It`s Time To Sleep DVD&BOOK. Cheers, Maree
Answered: 08 Nov 2007