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I want to him in his cot not in my bed

hi i have a 11 month old son that will not sleep in his cot but will sleep all nit in my bed or on the floor next to our bed i have try leavin him in his cot but it hasn’t work he just screams to the stage where he make him self sick and i just don’t know what to do with him as i want to him in his cot not in my bed???? plz help Rebecca

Answer: Hi, This is his sleep association and unfortunately when you make a change like this it comes with much protest. Firstly you need to understand why he wakes. Because he doesn`t know how to sleep without you. Second, changing a habit is never easy and to get your son sleeping independently means he needs to fall asleep on his own so when he wakes on his light sleep he can resettle himself. Imaging you have gone to sleep in your bed and you wake up in the bath you couldn`t go back to sleep without your bed and where you went to sleep. Same with babies that are rocked, cuddled, fed to sleep or transferred once asleep. It is a really heart breaking thing to teach a baby to sleep independently but if done correctly it can sometimes only take a week or so. My son was 12 months and he slept through from the first day of the program after having never slept through the night ever. This is why I help other parents today. You can get an overview of our settling program from the Your Baby`s Sleep section of the Huggies site or for more detail, and a visual demonstration, It`s Time To Sleep DVD&BOOK. Cheers, Maree
Answered: 08 Nov 2007