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Childbirth and gifts.

Childbirth and gifts.

Shortly after I gave birth to our eldest child, my husband came to the delivery ward with some gifts. It had been sent to me from Australia (Mr Large was born in the UK) I unwrapped the gift from my in laws and resisted the urge to burst into tears.

They had sent me a large, and no doubt very expensive, jar of stretch mark cream as a present for delivering their first grandchild. I have to say that having endured an exceptionally long labour and an emergency c-section only hours earlier, I was probably too whacked out on pain relief to be offended. Only as the pain relief wore off did my indignation grow.

In fairness to my in-laws they are lovely people. I’m really fond of them. They are just immensely practical people and my mother in law thought this would be a great gift for me.
So I can’t help laughing when I see people getting up in arms about the amazing gifts celebrities get given after giving birth. Because I can bet they never got a gift like mine from their mother in law.

In an ideal world I’d have liked, well a stretch of unbroken sleep but that wasn’t on the agenda for at least a year, or maybe a new pair of pajamas or possibly a soft dressing gown. My tastes aren’t expensive at all. But every mama is different.

My girlfriend Lucy was thrilled to get home from the hospital to discover her mother in law had filled the freezer with several home cooked meals and another girlfriend had a long standing arrangement set up with her mother in law where she emptied the ironing basket for her after her baby was born.
What gift do you think you’d like from people? Or do you not expect one?

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Avatar SarahBlogger

After giving birth to her first child, Sarah received an unusual gift from her mother in law.

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Posted 26 May 2011 - 02:27 AM

Avatar mumaS2A<3

i dont expect anything for me when little boy is born. i was surprised when a friend said that for my baby shower gift she is planning on giving me a gift too.

although my mum has planned that for the duration of my stay in hospital she is going to bring me a fresh salad roll for lunch each day and lots of fresh fruit. for me, this is better then chocolates or flowers grin

Posted 26 May 2011 - 03:08 AM

Avatar BrookieB

after the birth of our Dd we came home from hospital to find my inlaws (MIL, FIL,SIL, BIL and his GF) who were all staying at our house (they were visiting from Interstate) had washed the sheets on our bed and remade it, washed our towel and cleaned the whole house, including doing all the washing and ironing.

I didn't expect any of it but I was very touched

Posted 26 May 2011 - 05:06 AM

Avatar OC1246

I never expected anything, but my husband and also my parents bought me new pjs. my stepsister bought us a toasted sandwhich maker and heaps of books for night time feeds. She is so great! She even bought toys for the dogs when my dd1 was born so they had some new things to play with while they settled in to the new situation. Mum and stepmum also made some cake/slices etc for visitors and for snacks for the first few days - which they then replenished. My IL bought me HEAPS of fruit which was seriously the best thing and I ate so much of it the day after dd1 was born.
I am extremely lucky and blessed to have the family I do.

Posted 26 May 2011 - 05:13 AM

Avatar lil-jenny

I have to agree with the post about food in the freezer!!!
When your looking after bubs and after other kids, preparing a healthy nutritional meal is somewhat very difficult in the first few months. Especially where in my case I had a very traumatic birthing experience that left me in a bad way, physically and emotionally. So, my mum and sister made me up a heap of food packs that I could defrost for the family at team time, or whenever it was required; Vegetable soup, Lasagne, Spaghetti bol, curry sausages, Meatballs. Mum also came over and washed the floors, stripped the beds each week, and surprised me ALOT with visits to watch the kids and sent me off to bed for a snooze in the afternoon!! In that time she did my washing too. smile One very special and important lady in my life. My mum even booked my husband and i lunch at a cafe down the street and came over one day and sent us on the way. Was the best 2 hours of my life!! Just being able to talk with my husband without nagging of kids at the heels, was so good. She even had the balls to tell my friends (who don't have kids), to pick up the towels and fold one day too. Told them that a teatowel wouldn't go astray either on the dishers at the sink and they could gettheir own cuppa wink LOL I was somewhat embarassed at the time, but very appreciative of mum saying something because they would visit alot and I really couldn't afford to sit down for too long anymore when I have kids to run around and look after... and they understand that its my life now to multitask - do dishers, and carry a conversation!! smile

Posted 12 June 2011 - 09:51 AM

Avatar FTADC2

the best thing to give is help,friends,hugs,love for husband,

Posted 09 April 2012 - 05:22 PM

Avatar Miss_Renee121

I totally laughed out loud at this post because my MiL gifted me the same thing at Christmas time when I was 3 months along. I was initially a little offended but conceded it was very practical of her and very much in her nature. She has continued to gift it to me through out my pregnancy and now instead of being offended I am appreciative that I don't have to waste my money on boring expensive creams smile

Posted 03 May 2012 - 01:57 AM

Avatar Thats2cute

When you actually think of it, your MIL is just being kind and practical. Now if she had bought you wrinkle cream for christmas then maybe yes I'd be a little offended but Stretch mark cream not so much. I found BioOil is a great product for scars and stretch marks. I few drops in a bath and then a few drops on the skin afterwards.

Posted 02 May 2014 - 06:08 AM

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