you may have seen posts from me before...I had day time hell till he was 7 months and then one day it all was fine. about the time that went fine, he stopped wanting to go to sleep by himself at night which was NEVER a problem.
so now I have a baby that self settles to sleep without a grizzle and sleeps 1-1.5 hrs twice a day and the same child who freaks out at night time bedtime.
I finally said enough is enough 3 weeks ago. it was taking 1.5hrs some nights to get him to sleep so I decided to try tizzie halls approach of "not going in there" and letting him shout himself to sleep. after 3 weeks of absolute consistency and changing my bed time routine (to not have a breast feed immediately before bed cos he was falling asleep on the boob alot} I have to say that there has been little or no improvement.
I don't want anyone to tell me whether they think the approach was right or wrong ( I feel like enough of a failure), the reason I've posted is that I think that maybe my bedtime routine or ritual is flawed and so I'd like to hear from other mums who's babies are around the same age and who go down without a fuss.
here is his day at the moment:
usually wakes 6.45/7am
1 boob 7am - usually rejects other boob (probably cos he always has one around 5am)
8am - breakfast
9.45ish - 11ish - sleep
12.30/1pm Full BF
1.45/2pm - 3pm ish sleep
5pm - dinner
5.30-6.00 - mum and dad play
6pm bath (gets grizzly about now, rubs eyes...tired signs)
6.20pm Full BF - he's often very distracted and wriggles constantly
6.30 - read a few stories, try to contain him...can be quite hyper
6.45/7pm - bed awake ( protests and cries the minute I leave the room - on occasion has vomited from distress) over the last 3 weeks it has taken as much as 50 mins of crying to sleep and as little as 15 mins but it changes every day and sometimes I've had to go in and hug him as he has been hysterical)
He usually wakes up crying about 30-45mins after he eventually goes to sleep. mostly self settles within 5-10 mins and then sleeps through but always wakes around 4.30/5am for 1 boob and then sleeps again till 6.45/7am
NOTE: I have tried later bed times and earlier bed times and non had any effect except the earlier bed time worked better once and the later one worked better once! I have sat on the floor next to the cot and he doesn't cry but takes 30 mins to lie down and sleep.
I have 3 questions:
1) I want to know what you do at what times so i can see if I'm missing something basic.
2) if there is usually 3 hrs between sleep times in his day then should there be the same amount of time before the bed one too? I wonder if he's over tired and that is why he won't settle.
3) does it seem strange that day settling is fine and the night is a circus?
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